HB in my work who flirts with me over email. I have to sometimes go to her office area for work purposes and speak to her, I thought I was confident and reasonably good socially but everytime I go bright red and cant say my words properly, I totally overheat and once even felt a trickle of sweat running down my forehead. fuck fuck fuck its annoying its just her. Happened again today and afterward she said in an email that I always seem nervous. I just blamed it on being in that environment as there was a bit of an audience and if we went out it would be fine, she said she would consider but we have being go through this for 3 fucking months now its doing my head in, it seems like she is getting off on it but at the same time she isn't one of the spoiled retards that would do that sort of thing. To be honest outside the office i would have no problems.
Whats my next move?

You know what I was thinking after it today need to learn inner game so this will never happen, but it will always happen, I think your right once you tell someone and are confident to tell her the problem will dissappear. Cheers Mate great advice. Could also put a wee neg in it eg why do you make me so nervous it never usually happens - I actually hate you for it lol.

Do you really think you will be more comfortable in a one on one situation with this girl in a bar outside of the office or are you just telling yourself that? Personally for me talking to a work colleague (no matter how fit) about innocent work issues whilst at work isn't a big deal and would be less pressure than having the 'judgement' of a one on one encounter where there are other motives at play.

I'd recommend to overcome this you listen to the Blue-print and or read 'The way of the superior man' by David Deida.

I also think you should work on other options and not focus so much on this one girl. 3 months you say this has been going back and forth, you need to make something happen. If she's relatively fit then she's not going to be hanging around for long. Don't ask her out by e-mail, if you want a straight answer from her, do it face to face. You'll then know where you stand.