Been gaming this one for a year

[Durexed]

Yeh!

Long story short - she works at my work, in my eyes HB9 and I'm after her for GF material, that's my end result with this one.

Gamed her april last year, over the course of three months, won, we had good sex, exchanged numbers etc she fucked off travelling for half a year (knew it was happening) I broke contact, she assumed I was after 1 night thing, she met someone came home, came back to work, I continued to game her (her BF is not my responsibility) she was still very receptive and keen, we ended up sleeping together, she told her then BF, we had numerous talks - wheres this going etc.

We tried to ignore it- I laid the game off for a while, then reignited it last couple of months, we went out a while back with work and ended up sleeping together, she broke it off with her BF, she wants to be with me but now her head is "a real mess" and she "needs time alone to think"

She's asked so many IOI questions like
"would you have me in your life?"
"i'm worried you'll get bored of me"

She's such a great great girl.

Now this time alone thing - how do I play this? at the moment I'm doing it hardball and i've said "i'm going to crack on with my life for a few weeks cause you obviously need time" the other night she asked me to meet her but I said "no, I don't think it's a good idea" and played it that way. We didn't meet.

What are the next steps? Do I continue the dropped contact? ignore her? Or do I play it alpha and go the other way "this is what we are gonna do etc"

i'm literally at the edge of winning what I belive to be a girl I'd want to let into my life and spend it with - but I feel if I play it wrongly here it's game over.

A big issue is her friends filling her head with shit saying she's dropped her really lovely BF for me (whom they don't know) but i'm obviously seen as the bad guy.

Many many thanks for your help friends.

[Shahanshah]

Originally Posted by kowalski

Great girls or 9's or whatever don't lie and cheat their way through life.

Are you saying that some girls are morally better because they're attractive?

[Durexed]

Hello Kowalksi, I understand what you are trying to do, and I respect and thank you for it. Having said that I think I need to make my own choices (and possibly mistakes) on this one.

[Shahanshah]

Why did you bother asking then?

[Durexed]

Originally Posted by Shahanshah

Why did you bother asking then?

Because I need initial guidance on what to do with my situation.

I have not yet received that.

Thank you for your time however.

[Shahanshah]

Originally Posted by kowalski

You don't get to decide what responses you get though. If you think otherwise, you misunderstand the concept of a public forum.

You may already have 'decided' to fuck up your life because you are unhappy within yourself. However, I'm still going to announce that to you and then refuse to help you fuck up your life.

I'd be a knob if I did any different.


Peace,

kowalski

Yeah you're a cunt and you'd never degrade yourself to the level of a knob.

[Hustler25]

Durexed,

'What are the next steps? Do I continue the dropped contact? ignore her? Or do I play it alpha and go the other way "this is what we are gonna do etc".

Contrary to what you might have read if you've been reading PUA material, there is no game. Just behave and do as you wish. Don't play games or use tactics from here on in as you perhaps risk losing her completely. Just be open and honest about those feelings, even if those feelings are gooey and mushy and prone to making other people reach for the nearest sick bucket.

No alpha bullshit, just play it straight and to the point from now on.

To add to Kowalski's point though, I too would be pretty skeptical about having a relationship with a girl who I knew had cheated and told brazen lies. Leopards don't tend to change their spots.

[Essence]

as above. wouldnt work dude as youd NEVER be able to trust her 100 percent.

Move on, but dont burn bridges. that way you can still keep bashing her now and then if you keep it friendly

[nova]

Originally Posted by Durexed

She's asked so many IOI questions like
"would you have me in your life?"
"i'm worried you'll get bored of me"

To me this only devalues her further. She sounds very insecure.

I can't believe you worked on her for a whole year too.

[Chaz Reinhold]

her cheating on her ex is hard to read as i/others here dont know the backstory, if it was just some casual thing but theres something real between you two go for it - if she was in a serious rel and just slept with you for the sex (nothing more) then shes trash