I need some advice of what to do with an some girl that keeps annoyingly flaking on me!
I've been texting some girl for a while now (PD2G if you've read my field reports).
She keeps asking me to meet up with her but everytime we arrange for to do something, when the day comes she blows me out with some lame excuse! This has happened 4 times now.
I think it is down to her being nervous or scared as whenever i see her when she's out with friends and she's drunk, she keeps inviting me back to her place at the end of the night (which the last 2 times i've had to decline)! The time before that i got LMR!
Whenever she blows me out, i do the standard thing of showing that it doesn't bother me, etc, which it doesn't usually as i've always got something else to do but how many times can i let her get away with this?
I've been promised sex from her so many times now and she just hasn't delivered, lol!

She now wants everyone to go out together on Saturday and get drunk!
I think it's annoying me more because the weekends are the only real time i get to practise opening sets and if she's about I won't be able to get the best of both worlds it'll be one or the other!

I really feel like just blowing her out for good and moving on but am feeling that it'd have been a complete waste of my time and energy over the last couple of months if i don't get my end away beforehand!

Say you'll meet her some other night like Friday, you have stuff to do (which you do) and you can't be jumping through her hoops all the time. If she says she can only make Saturday then tell her she always cancels so you are not cancelling your plans for someone that's unreliable.

It sounds like she likes you but you can't let her keep doing this to you because it will only get worse as she knows she can get away with it. Maybe she doesn't do it on purpose to annoy you but if she gets scared or nervous she knows she can back out and you'll still be there the next time.
I've done this before and ended up getting walked all over or just not ending up meeting up at all.

If she is a nervous/shy kind of person she probably won't be very decisive you have to be.

This girl definitely isn't shy! She's quite the dominant type and needs to be put in her place a bit otherwise she'd walk over everyone! what i meant by nervous/scared is, i think she's real self-conscious and is scared to see me when she's sober coz it'll end up with me sleeping with her and then not coming back! Where as when she's been drinking, she hasn't got so many inhibitions!

anyway...
Her: What are you up to saturday? x
Me: Got to help a mate move and then might be going into town, if not i'll be going to Crawley x
Her: I think we should all head into town x
Me: Maybe, I'll let you know what everyone's up to x

I've made up my mind and decided that i can't be arsed with her anymore and will head into town without her and drop her a late text saying we're out just in case she's about and i'm horny later, lol!

oy, i am not going to give you the address, lol!

I have thought about doing this before but can't actually remember where she lives!

If it was me i would politely inform her that she gets a spank for each flake, and that if she keeps doing it she is going to get replaced with a super model... i've used that one before anyway x

Woah I am no girl. And I don't want any spanking brasiliano!

To be honest I accepted it coz i was i nob! I've allowed far too many people to walk over me! Grr, i'm really angry!

After she blew me out yesterday afternoon saying she couldn't make it, she then text me at 7:30 asking what i'm up to and then at 9 asking if i wanted to go for a drink!
I'm not even going to bother to waste my time with her anymore and if i do see her about this weekend i'll be the messer not the messie but only if i'm having an unsuccessful night!

No girl is special enough to treat me like this and if i've allowed her to behave like this already then i've already set a standard for her behaviour. Time to move on!

Thanks Adam,

I am more angry with myself for allowing it to get me into that position but am unhappy with her for "trying it on".
On of my goals is to become more dominant and have only recently started to show this when i'm out and meeting new people. I'm still however struggling to show this side of me to people i already know and know how i am.
If i do see her this weekend, i'll definitely show this side of myself to her but at the same time have decided not progress with her, i can't be arsed, there are a hell of a lot of better looking and nicer girls around my town, that i need to try out my new traits with!
I'm not looking for a relationship with anyone at the moment so have no problems with cutting this off!