Right, well I've not commented for a while as I got luvved up. I trust you lot are still on good form.

So, after some early ups and downs with chasing tail which some of you may remember, I managed to pull a girl who to me was a 10. Stunningly, classically beautiful. Interesting and cultured too, and filthy in bed.

She was complex though, and a pain in the arse, and we broke up. My first real emotional damage over a woman, and it hurt like fuck and still does a bit. I decided afterwards that it served me right for placing too much responsibility for my happiness on a woman, and decided to focus on my life more widely and to hell with women (which predictably led to a new girlfriend).

It was months ago now, I have a new girlfriend, and yet I can't stop thinking about the ex.

Obviously the old creed is GFTOW but I've never really been interested in being a "PUA" as such, just want to find the right girl and sort my shit out. I feel like I've moved on because I knew I had to not because I wanted to. I did the textbook thing that you all would have recommended afterwards, cut all contact...etc.

I realise pining after the old girl is all needy and fucked up and stupid. She buggered my confidence, and she still has all the drama and bullshit within her. Yet I can't seem to purge her from my brain.

I don't mean to sound shallow but I know you lot will get this, she was soooo fucking fit ! Far and away the best looking girl I've ever known, and the notches on my bedpost are modest in quantity compared to some of you.

I think I need to stop being a pussy and go on a bit of a rampage to get her out of my system and seem less "special", knock her off the pedestal so to speak.

Means breaking up with the new girlfriend though, and I don't want to do that either because she is sweet and I do care about her too.

So basically, this is a pointless moan that goes nowhere!

I dunno...thoughts?

PS

Here you have your answer. I am at this stage now, i.e. on the rampage (or at least trying!) as I recently broke up with my girlfriend and was constantly feeling I wanted more from life. I intend on meeting as many women as possible in the coming weeks and months. This is already happening and I'm excited. As I work on the numbers game, I will develop, learn and inevitably get laid. Choice and experiences are now what I crave.


As painful and sorry as you may feel breaking up with your girlfriend, don't stay with her out of pity. Life is too short. Nobody wins here.

Sounds like you've already realised what you need to do, you just came on here for second opinions.

You're just delaying the inevitable with your current GF, she's not good enough to purge your thoughts on the old (better?) one, if you get me. Don't waste each others time.

Just a side note, does anyone else find meeting potential gf's increases when you really just want to fuck around a bit? Terrible timing.

This is something I'm personally determined to resist from now on. My intention is to stay single for a sustained period. The nature of my being single and actively dating could become blurred however, as I now meeting girls in the day it may take a few meetings/dates to get them into bed. This is something that was highlighted yesterday with a Vietnamese girl I met/dated yesterday, who had personal/social boundaries with physical contact.