Dealy with chodey motherfuckers 'testing/fucking with' you
 

Me and max pulled these two girls saturday, lead them around a couple of bars then to the club and pulled them/got there numbers - should have gone for the lay but didn't. Lesson learned, try next time.

Anyways, we're on the dancefloor - she's dancing i'm dancing and these guys make a subtle approach her way and she moves my way a few mins later we're kissing. While we're kissing this fat nerd and his mate start dancing right behind me rubbing themselves on me. The kiss ends and i grab the fat one and get all agressive with him in a jokey way - throw my arm around his neck hard and agressivly hip bump him, he walks off. It might have been two guys or just the fat guy - he was pretty fat. So his mate either fucked off as soon as i turned around or it was just his lame ass. Having some fat ass all over you after you've just had a hb in your arms aint pleasent.

So the only way i know how to deal with this situation is to get aggressive in a 'jokey' way.

20 mins later we're kissing again on the other side of the dance floor and another loser is dancing around us showing off to his mates and fucks off after a sec.

I'm thinking they we're into the girl and she was up on me and they were just being drunken children.

What do you guys do in this situation?

By the way this shit has happened before and im sure it will happen again.

Funny enough i was dancing by myself on the dancefloor while max had a girl on a previous night and this gay guy came over, got in my face and i tried the agressive but friendly approach, mistake! He liked that shit. It only made him try harder so i just had to say 'look mate i'm straight but thanks' lol.

Any advice on how to deal with chodey dudes or just dudes in general fucking with you?

Jamm.

stop disco necking, people see u as a joke when ur kissin a girl in the middle of a club, id probly ride u as well.

if u wanna kiss her, go somewer.

Fair point.

Can't see me stopping though :D

this!

Smacks of being 17 years old!

Slow weekend Phil?

I dis-agree that i'd 'ride' some guy who was kissing a girl in a club - i'd notice it and maybe say 'get a room' at most - infact i don't think it would affect me in the slightest - i definitly wouldn't go over and start acting like a jackass around them - trying to provoke a reaction.

I think a more mature me will be more into chatting/flirting than snogging and that'll be me in the future. At the min tho i enjoy kissing girls in clubs - gives me one hell of a hard on, ha! And it's a bit of fun.

So i'll just have to stick to my agressive/jokey reaction. I suppose i could lead her away from the guys fucking with me, that could be another option

I'll kiss girls in clubs no problemo. In fact i'll kiss a girl anywhere.

What happened to not giving a flying fuck what other people think of u?

But what would you do if some guy/guys were messing with you while you were kissing her?

Id take the girls hand & take her elsewhere.

If they followed us or continued to be annoying assholes, id tell them to fuck off & stare them down even square up if need be, till they fuck off.

But everyone is different, as is every situation different. So it can depend on this too.

Yeah i think that's the other option like i posted above. Bloody annoying though having to lead her elsewhere and then start the kiss again. Ruins the moment a bit y'know?

From my own personal experience, it doesn't sound like these guys are intentionally trying to wind you up.

Firstly dance floors are crowded places so if people are bumping into you it probably isn't through choice. You shouldn't be so self concious. Also when you are on the dancefloor standing still necking people will bum into you as they are moving and you are still.

Secondly is the dancefloor the best place to "make out" with a girl? Yeah maybe if you're having a dance you can tease and have a quick pash but have a little respect for her and yourself and take it somewhere else because if you find a secluded place to sit, you're more likely to bond and have here pulling you out the front door by your flies.

If both of the above fail, just turn around, get eye contact with whoever is pulling your chain and ask "is there a problem champ?"

I hope my post doesn't come across as harsh but keep the dance-floor for dancing...

Not harsh at-all mate, and being harsh isn't a bad thing if it's your opinion. Harshnes can be necessary and helpful.

It wasn't a mistake, they were being cunts on purpose. The dancefloor was pretty much empty and on both accounts we were necking off on the side.

I dunno, i think the more mature solid game me of the future will be into leading the girl away and making out there. But the me of now likes to dance and the moment can get quite hot n heated and turn into a kiss right there and when that happens and some bellend thinks its funny to act like a jackass i guess that's just life and something im gonna have to deal with every now and again.

Love,

Jamm xox

hhahahaha Aye, i couldn't turn on a porno

its what u think of yourself... self respect mate

Dancefloors are for dancing! So dance! Generally i won't kiss on the dancefloor but just flirt and have a good time. If I start to kiss someone then i normally move away from the dancefloor.
On a packed dancefloor your gonna get knocked if ur standing still! If a couple got arsey with me because I was bumping into them I probably wouldn't be happy about it and tell em to find a room!

Don't fucking worry about it. Neck her there and then OR lead her away. Who gives a fuck?

Nothing wrong with snogging on the dance floor. Nothing wrong with anything it just depends on the situation and the bar/club etc. Some clubs are so rammed and steamy you can pretty much fuck a bird on the dancefloor without anyone noticing or giving a shit, but then again if you start necking some random in the middle of a half empty family pub on a sunday afternoon in front of a trio of grandads that are trying to watch the test match over your shoulder, then you aren't exactly 'the man'...and deserve any flak that comes your way:pound:

It just depends. Use judgement.

I know my world would be a lot less fun if i stopped snogging birds on dancefloors. But maybe that's just me.:p

I used to be the guy that pulled girls on the dance floor and stayed there with them making out.

I also used to be the annoying chode that danced outrageously at other people.

That was when I was 18.

Thank fuck for self correction.

So im looking at me kissing the hot blonde that the whole club is drooling over but are afraid to do anything about it, im not gunna think "what a douche"

Most guys would be (secretly) a little jealous that they didnt have the balls to go up to her, & thinking "why didnt i do that first" but they would never admit it.

Lets write out a comprehensive 500k page life rule book covering ever possible eventuality in existence shall we...?

No. Little balance here. If you've got the hot girl and you're dancing, sure pull her.

But then get a room.

There's no need to eat each others faces off in front of everyone.

Im saying i wouldnt be self concious or worried about kissing the girl in front of everyone.

But yeah, id bounce her somewhere else very soon.

you're being too passive aggressive.

First off, you're not in the best environment to have a lot of room to be making out, so you're not thinking things through and realizing they may not be doing it on purpose.

Secondly it's your responsibility to fix that situation, if that's what you want. If you want room to make out, go somewhere for that. If you want to dance, dance. If you want to do both, you're going to have to suffer the consequences that come with your choice, namely, people getting in your way. If you're not willing to handle it, don't expect it to fix itself.

Finally, being pushy with drunks isn't going to get you anywhere fast. Just because some fat guy is annoying you doesn't make it right to be aggressive with him. All you're doing is exasperating the situation, and likely fucking up some guy who's got a lot of his own issues with himself. Maybe he has game, and maybe not. maybe he's trying to be fun, or just get some friends. Maybe he is trying to make you look bad. Doesn't matter.

Suddenly you're acting like the BigDick(tm) who constantly put you down growing up, the same big dick that destroyed your self esteem, prevented you from getting girls, made you depressed for the better part of your life before you finally decided to 'Get Game' and fix this. Putting the guy in a headlock isn't doing you or him any good AT ALL.

Next time, firmly tell him to stop. If he doesn't, ridicule him. If he still doesn't, move away. It's not worth getting physical, because you can't talk sense into drunks.

Anything beyond that is just starting the cycle all over again, and going to lead you back here looking for 'help' (a place to vent your frustrations, and to seek guidance).

Thanks for the advice guys. :puaforum:

I would just pity them and keep kissing. They will itha fuck off and continue to realize they will actually never kiss a girl or carry on. I doubt someones social skills if they get there kicks out of dancing around lads getting into girls. I know what you mean about the aggression though, reminds me of myself. My main advice is to chill and think 'At least I'm not him'

Oh so very true!