25 year old British South Asian guy here, currently living alone in Stockwell, looking for a wingman aged between 22-30 to day game with. I'm posting on here because previous wingmen have not been committed and flaky, have gotten into relationships or busy with other things, or live at home with their parents so can't come out whenever they want to.

I'm looking to practise day game 2-3 evenings during the weekdays and on the weekend. I usually hit the gym 4 evenings after work during the weekdays but am willing to reduce this to 2 days to make time for day game and really commit.

I'm looking for a wingman who is as determined and committed as I am and is sick of not making progress on their own because they need some support. The objective of our time together day gaming should be to take action and push each other to improve ourselves. It's always awesome to finish a good interaction with a beautiful woman and come back and high five your wing. But it's even more awesome after a bad rejection or approach that went wrong to come back and have someone there to support you whilst you lick your wounds. I'm looking for someone who could help me like that and in turn I will help you like that. Also it's great to be able to say "I need to get back to my friend..." and add a time constraint.

Here are some ideas as to where we would be day-gaming:
• Making journeys to areas such as Luton and Essex and chatting to girls in train stations, on trains there, in those areas and on train stations and trains on the way back. I've included this because I've lived in London my whole life and am sometimes self conscious about people knowing me (even though this is irrational given the vast number of people in this beautiful city) so it's nice to take the pressure off sometimes.
• Leicester Square and Oxford Circus and other West London areas - typical PUA spots apparently.
• High Street Kensington and other fancier South West London areas.
• Clapham which seems to have a lot of attractive busy professional girls.
• Central London areas which are busy.
• Any other ideas you have would be more than welcome.

In terms of the logistics on the day, we would walk together and approach one by one. Let's say we are both walking and I spot a woman I like the look of, I will go and approach her, you will follow me and stay fairly close by (but leaving a safe distance between you and the woman of course! so she doesn't get freaked out), I will return after the approach is over, we will keep walking, you will spot a woman you like the look of, you will go and approach, I will follow keeping a safe distance, then you will return to me when the approach is over. We can debrief and support/motivate each other after each approach.

In terms of physical traits I'm 5'9 and weigh about 77kg so a bit overweight. Pretty average in terms of looks.

In terms of mental traits I am focused and driven in basically every other aspect of my life. I'm happy with my fitness goals and the action I've taken, I'm happy with my career goals and the work I've done to get to where I am, and I'm very happy with my friends - who by the way are not into pick up at all but understand my desire to do so and are supportive - I consider myself very lucky in that sense. But the one thing missing is day game. I lead a fairly busy life and day game seems to be the only way for me to be able to date on my own terms. I figure the initial investment and dealing with the awkwardness and fear will help build a skill/capability that will allow me to meet women when I am doing other things that are important to me or going through daily life.

A shitty relationship where I gave a girlfriend way too many chances because of suffering from "oneitis" is the reason I'm so determined about improving here. I wasted so much time taking shit from her and it meant I couldn't achieve tonnes of goals. I never want to be in a situation where I don't have a choice ever again.

As a wingman relationship needs "chemistry" here are a few things about me:
• I've made a commitment to being as positive as possible and making this my default way of thinking about life. I grew up with abusive father and mother who suffered from mental health problems. As a kid/teenager I wasted so much time being unhappy, depressed and basically being dead inside. My definition of "death" is living the same dreary day over and over again and feeling powerless to change it. I never want to feel like that again. Life is so much better when lived positively. I have been able to see the difference with interactions with both guys and girls as a result of thinking more positively.
• I have been into personal development since 2010 and regularly (try to do it on a daily basis) read books and articles/listen to audiobooks about self-improvement. I am trying to build some unwavering self discipline into my daily life so I get work done efficiently and then have time to work on gym, day game, my passion projects, my hobbies and make time for the people I care about.
• I am definitely a team player. My whole attitude towards achieving goals is definitely in line with a "let's win bigger together" type of person rather than a "win small myself" type of person.
• Music is the one constant in my life. I am something of a rap/hip hop and R&B fanatic. But also like soft rock, soul and pop. Recently have been jamming to Stormzy's "Cold" and Ed Sheeran's Divide album. Also songs from the Suits soundtrack. My ideal business if I had an unlimited amount of money would be to launch a record label - I tried when I was 16 but that didn't work out due to running out of money and me trying to get into university!
• I love TV shows including, more recently: Suits, Game of Thrones, Brooklyn Nine Nine, House of Cards, Narcos. Also a massive fan of other shows including The IT Crowd, Peep Show, Friends and Scrubs.
• Movies I love include The Godfather (and Godfather II), Bourne films, Kill Bill, Oceans trilogy. There are so many more but predominantly action, thrillers and organised crime movies. I also think There's Something About Mary is the shit.
• I try and read as many books as possible but weekly reading has generally involved The Economist, personal development books and books around seduction/pick up. trying to build a habit to read something every single day. Last proper non-fiction book I read was Hack Attack about the phone hacking scandal. Last fiction book was The Lord of The Rings.
• I work in financial advisory so there is chemistry with lawyers, investment bankers, commercial consultants etc. as well as professionals such as doctors. But this is just a small benefit. The key contributor to wingman chemistry is attitude to life and commitment to improvement. My past wingmen have included Economists, freelance writers/bloggers and shelf stackers.
• In the long term future I want to be self employed and have control over my own time. I want to spend my "work " life trying various projects, launching and running businesses, making and monitoring investments and organising charities relating to education and child welfare (probably not a surprise given how I've grown up child welfare is particularly important to me). Projects I want to try include writing songs, a TV show, movies, books and blogs. Businesses I'd love to try my hand at include record labels, hotels, restaurants and gyms.
• I have been told by girls I've dated and other wingmen that I come across as intelligent, presentable, sophisticated and articulate. One wingman described me as "Suge Knight once upon a time and some professional guy now" given the record label I tried to launched had very ghetto guys signed onto it.
• I have no time for religion so am fundamentally an atheist/agnostic. I respect you following a religion but I'd prefer there to be no limitations on what you can/cannot do as a result of day gaming because of religion limiting you. Basically I don't think religion has any place in business, politics or day game.
• I don't smoke or do drugs but no issue if you're a smoker.
• I like a drink from time to time but don't drink myself into a stupor. I usually drink more alcohol on dates with girls that drink a lot and sometimes with close friends when celebrating something big. Otherwise I avoid it due to the impact it has on physical performance in the gym and reducing mental sharpness which I need to strategically make use of this time whilst I am still young.
• I love working out probably more than anything else. I've been on and off for about a year now. An ideal week for me would involve 3 days of weight lifting and bodyweight exercises and 3 days of cardio workouts. I've come up with that after reading articles about how the Royal Marines recommend training before joining them. But I have enjoyed lifting weights since I was 15 so going to move onto that after hitting bodyweight targets.
• I have had success with women in relationships and some dates but they've been through social circles and general serendipity. I want to increase the control I have over my romantic life and basically being able to meet women anywhere as an ultimate objective.
• With women I tend to be shy at first as I can get in my head a lot. If I'm calm I usually do well if the woman is responding well. But I'm pretty good with everything after getting the number - longer term relationships and dating have helped there. So I'm trying to get better at the "approaching" stage until I get the number/take her out on an instant date. By the way I'm usually pretty busy during the week with other goals and I have pretty high standards personality wise so I don't come across as needy. I'm happy to walk away from a shit interaction.

I know I've covered a lot of ground and it may be too much for some people to read but I'd rather get the right wingman who is committed to finding a good wingman himself as I really want to commit to this and see how far I can push it. No more fucking around. If my profile resonates with you and you want to take action to improve your success with women then email me on [email][email protected][/email] and let's get started ASAP. If things go well I hope not just to find a wingman but hopefully a friend for life who I have gone through a significant period of growth with. Feel free to message/respond to me here or email any other questions you have although I think I've been pretty comprehensive here!

Ahmed