Hi guys,

I've just joined this site in an effort to end my lack of success with the ladies. I'm tall, tanned, muscular, well-dressed and I would consider myself to be reasonably good looking. Career-wise I'm successful and I'd say I have a lot going for me. Everything is rosey - except when it comes to women.

I find approaching women extremely difficult and engaging in conversation even harder. I've not dated a girl in months and my sex life is non-existent. So where am I going wrong?

Can someone point me in the right direction with where I can start by beginning to regain my confidence (I know it's there somewhere) and give me some advice on how to get myself out of this rut.

Most of my mates are settled down now so I'm finding myself struggling to get a decent wingman and often resort to going out for a few pints on my own, which isn't ideal.

Any advice is greatly appreciated! Cheers!

Hi Rock-steady, where about's are you based?

Assume you've read the game, have you watched any of the RSD stuff?

Hey RS

welcome along, though this might have been a more appropriate post for the introduction area.

As for why you're not getting along, firstly just because you have no wing, that's not a problem, you can approach any girl, anywhere, anytime. From what I can gather is that you have no self belief in your value and seem to be putting girls that you talk to on pedestals. As Mark said RSD stuff works well for this (I favor RSD Blueprint Decoded - available on all great torrent sites).

As for conversation, just think of it like having good banter with a good friend. Open and talk to everybody everywhere - men, women, old and young so you become a social guy. At the supermarket, library, pub, work, lift, (you get the idea).

But mainly always go for it. Seriously, you have nothing to lose in asking a girl out or for her number, the worst she can say is no and we have all been taught manners from the childhood so she wont tell you to "go f**k yourself" - at worst she'll just be polite and leave you to it.

Sent you a PM RS - seems you're from Liverpool, might be able to help you out!

Thanks for the feedback, no I haven't read The Game and I have no idea what RSD is. This is all totally new to me so I'll investigate and let's see how I get on. Some valid points there Daleinthedark - all appreciated and taken onboard. Thanks again.

the key is relaxing man and not caring. if you don't care, you approach girls more.

I agree mate, when I'm out on the lash with the lads there's no real problem. My current circumstances mean that when I'm out in a bar on my own it can be difficult to approach a group of women without coming across as a "Billy-no-mates".