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Originally Posted by Fox
Dear all,
This is not a post detailing an encounter with a post person or a regaling of a successful chat up of a pen friend but rather some of the problems since entering in a ltr.
yeh so, 4 months ago I entered into a relationship. shes gorgeous, sexy, too intelligent for me and hard work. Im in love. my time within this community tho has impacted upon this relationship, just gonna highlight some stuff and see if anyone else has similar experiences.
- shes really concerned about the number of sexual partners I've had. I've slept with alot of people. when we got together, i told her honestly and openly. at first she didnt get it - i dont look like the guy to sleep around. im nice and genuine but at the same time, i did sleep with her the first night we met.
- alot of my former sex people are still in contact with me. we're friendly, there was no relationship so we're still in contact sometimes. its not cool tho if they text when shes here and its some girl like 'hey how are you?' and i have to explain. think im gonna break it off with everyone.
- at times ive been too honest. pu gave me an honest approach to women. never lied to her to protect her feelings. if she asked me about something i gave her an honest answer and this has caused arguments. obv i never went out of my way to tell her something she wouldnt want to know.
- shes commented on the different way I speak to people. we were on facebook and she noticed a chat I had with a girl i had previously met last year. she noted how i spoke differently to her than to my friends. this has caused a bit of insecurity in her - she says sometimes she doesnt know me because im different around different people.
i do naturally change how i am with people to automatically project my 'best self' as it were suitable to that person. dont think shes used to that.
thats it.
i really don't miss going out and meeting new women. really happy in this relationship so far. obviously i dont have any long term expectations yet but for now I'm out of the game.
hope everyone is well.
Sincerely,
Fox
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ye man, u should stay out of the game. few things
dont cut all ties from girls... i promise u at some point u may regret it! or if u do, dont let her know ur doing it.
when women become completely secure they treat u like a cunt... its that simple.
so be nice with her, treat her with complete respect... but never EVER give her 100% ive made this mistake with a girl who i was like WOW she is different.
relationship changes nothin, u still gotta keep her on her toes.
dont talk about ex partners, keep ur mouth shut, the less she knows the better.
i genuinly beleive once people feel they have nothin more to gain from u they will drop u...
so be aware. just stay how u are, its who she likes. give her a little bit of what she wants some of the time.