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Originally Posted by Refl3x
I dont totally buy into this. When in a long term relationship and i mean 4 years plus into it, its extremely easy to not make the effort anymore, irritate each other etc etc.
This stage is when you will somtimes see somone and wonder if the grass is greener, ive learned this the hard way that in almost all cases it isnt.
Its an experience thing hwoever.
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A relationship where you've put just 2 years(clearly demonstrating successful exit of the honeymoon period without a cave in) into it is all that's necessary for the effect you speak of Refl3x.
Two people that have spent that amount of time with each other connecting, bonding, learning each other's mind and body, the way both think, etc etc. Nobody that you've only just met can possibly compete with that. There are fringe cases where people may have spent a very long time wanting out of the relationship that this doesn't apply to, but a genuinely happy relationship with just the typical "Hmm I wonder" issues will always be better than whatever someone might find in the short term afterwards.
It takes years to build that up with a new person. I see far too many people make this mistake, happy in a relationship but experiences some curiosities such as this, they end up fucking everything up and hurting themselves immensely.