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My JOURNEY -
02-02-2011, 07:58 PM
Hey guys! I am going to embark on a pua journey hopefully from chode - master pua.!(what is a master pua by the way) mind you from going out, I really Prefer the natural route rather than the scripted routines! I have tried this in the past and did not manage to use them because my belief was that it was a bit weird!
I do have a wing, but he is on q personal fitness course ATM! So I have to go out and socialise ALONE! I'm petrified of this! I don't know why, but a few beliefs I have are. "if I go out alone, it will lOok like I have no friends." "what if some people kinda know me and ask who am I out with." So to combat this I take a walk through my town, as I only live around the corner!  I have set small stepping stone goals for me. E.g. Tonight I am going out and walking through the town. Next make eye contact with 5 girls and smile. Etc. But let's do the walk 1st. Dont think too far ahead Loving this site by the way!     
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02-02-2011, 09:24 PM
I just walked through the town and by god it was scary. I think I have issues lmao! Well what was weird is what was going through my head! "what if girls start talking to you." I think this is called fear of success right? I just tried to repeat affirmation in my head, " I am confident, calm and relaxed." I used my body to create a better state also! What's the best way to combat these feelings????
2moz I'm going to make eye contact with 5 women and smile!
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03-02-2011, 04:57 PM
you just seem excited by the idea of Game.
but if you take baby steps this is gonna take you forever. try opening 5 sets instead. or at least some level of verbal communication. for instance you could stop 5 sets by saying hi, and then just walking off. no one's gonna think it's weird. they'll think your fly as fuck. notice how the people that stand out most from any crowd are those going solo. think like a catwalk, people are sent out one at a time. Only difference is your pausing to speak to the sluts who are ogling you from the seated audience. people are gonna watch you. that's cos your breaking the rules. they wish they were you. bit sad really but that's the truth about non-puas. they wish they were us. truth hurts if you hide from it. truth nourishes if you believe in it. 
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03-02-2011, 05:24 PM
Where are you based pua123?
It might be easier if you get yourself on the 'find a wingman' section of this forum. Going out with like minded guys whether they've been doing this a while or fairly new, it'll be really beneficial.
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03-02-2011, 05:42 PM
What Cefai said. In the Forum you have an invaluable resource - loads of cool guys all happy to help out and get you on the right path, so try and get involved with whoever's in your area.
That said, however, some of the best nights out I've had are ones in which I've either been out on my own or temporarily lost my friends. I find you sort of toddle off and speak to anyone.
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03-02-2011, 05:55 PM
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03-02-2011, 06:16 PM
To pua123, the key thing is to control your interactions. Its much better to start a conversation with someone instead of being nervous some girl might talk to you. Find a girl you like the look of and ask her something. Girls wont open you 90% of the time anyway. They will position close to you and wait for you to open them.
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03-02-2011, 07:32 PM
Thanks for the reply guys I really appreciate it and find that this forum is cool and friendly! I will check out find a wing man! The problem is there is hardly any sets mon, tue, thur, sun! So it's slim pickings!
I want to go out and expand each time! I'm novice so feedback is welcome ! Does anyone here go out alone? The plan tonight was to just go out and make eye contact with 5 women, I know this sounds really sad lol. But I don't want to push myself to far where I go into panic mode and may not go out for a while. The plan is 2moz there will be more sets and I want to open with a situational q's 5 sets! As long as I continue to grow, that's a good thing right. I was reading a thread on here earlier. Don't u think it would be a good idea to do stupid stuff with your wingmen first to get into state? Or have like a routine for e.g. 1st of all say hi to 5 sets. Open with a ridiculous opener your wing gives you? Then you should be in a fun state and have good vibe for thE rest?
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03-02-2011, 10:41 PM
You can do that stuff to warm up but dont throw away sets. I have a bad habit of doing my first set half heartedly, exiting thinking 'just a warm up' and then regretting not getting a number and putting in a bit more time because, actually, they usually go well. The other day I was kicking myself about that, I was like 'that girl liked me, why did I make an excuse'. Every set is a potential future girl your bed, whether that be girlfriend or one nighter. Dont think just cos u go in with a silly opener ur mate gives u that it cant work out. If anything, its more likely to set a fun frame for the interaction.
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