Guys

I am going to share some my thoughts & mistakes of last night.

I got in the club quite late, had a chat with this girl who was introduced to me by my good mate Red. Then blar blar blar so we go back in, I took her to the dance floor for a bit of Tango which she enjoyed very much, then blar blar wondering around a bit more so she invited me to go outside for a fag. Now this is the interesting part while we were talking, she said to me something REALLY REALLY making a lot of sense which I recommend this to everyone in the forum. She said you seems interested in me not just by how I look. Now here is something I want to share with everyone this is not only for picking up girls but also in life, you need to INVEST in people before taking anything out of them. Until we do so we are just a bunch of inmature adults in my opinion. Anyway after that things just happened naturally I drove her to mine, she decided to stay, we had such a great conversation and rest of it is not important.

Tips: How to invest in people
1. LISTEN, LISTEN and LISTEN that's why God give us two ears and just one mouth
2. This is very important. Talk things relate to her as much as you can, not just listen to what she says but also how she says it
For Example, the format should be like this -
Me: what's your hobby?
HB: Netball
Me: I can see why you seems quite fit on the dancefloor , but why is netball?
HB: Because..... so on
3. Relax & Enjoy the conversation it shouldn't be a hard work
4. EYE CONTACT

Mistakes

Next morning I lost her completely. All the good feelings & Chemistry were gone, she wanted to go home to meet her friends by 2 I told her to wait until my flatmate leave so I could drive her home. I told her to join me and my friends in chinatown to see the fireworks and she gave me a firm yes - weird. Mistake1 - I didn't give her a legitimate reason only cos I was just not ready to leave at the time and of course she sensed it. Women are not stupied. Mistake2 - did not show enough care for her as I just realised if I was her, I would do exactly the same thing probably even worse after what we went through - always put yourself in others' shoes. So she left in a cab, deleted me on her facebook probably as well as my phone no. Anyway enough self-assessment for today.

Finally I must say that every decision you make everyday affect the quality of your whole life. Demonstrate care for others and stop saying " I don't care, I don't give a shit etc" in this situation. I can't explain it all but you will understand exactly what I mean once you are on this path. So this is for Julie W, whether you can see this or not I'm deeply sorry for what happened between us that morning, if I ever get a chance to see you again, I will do all I can to make it up with you. I'm sorry again. You are an amazing girl.

Remember guys we are out there to give girls a fucking good time, by doing that we will get the same amount back -it's win win solution.

Thanks for your patience!

Unique

Playing Devils Advocate here... could it not be that you were crap in bed, she woke up and thought wtf am i doing here and wanted to forget the whole thing ever happened?

maybe who knows
this is a new one I've never come across this one before
Maybe there is no such thing called One Night Stand if u can shag all night along
Thx

Just remember there is potentially lots of external factors influencing what a girl does, besides your game.

You can go round in circles wondering what the fuck you did wrong when really she has her own personal issues that were triggered from what you did.

Any tips for what to do after sex on a ons? do u crack on a DVD or what? Have a sleep is probably best I guess. I would buy in some weed to entertain her with but I'd just smoke it myself and never go out sarging.

A one night stand is a one off, why do you care?
If you mean, you want to see her again, why dont you just take her out for lunch, or if she doesnt have the clothes for it, make her lunch
Just make sure you cut through the initial wake up weirdness so she knows you are interested in her, plenty of kino again etc, maybe even lead it on for another shag.
kisses, cuddles

lol guys I'm not looking for solutions here I'm here to share my experience that's all
When we look at this game too seriously we start losing the enjoyment of all
Having fun is the whole point but thx for the help