And I think that's fair enough. Don't ask her to spell it out, just keep ploughing on. Stop looking for guarantees. Take some risks.

I folded and called her. She said, "What is it?" in a really sad voice. I replied, "What time is that concert? I'll come." Her voice completely lit up. She said, "Yeah, are you sure? That's great!"

I'm meeting her in an hour.

That's good advice Nova. I have to stick to my guns but I can't make her spell it out. It's not very smooth. I'll let you know how the 'dinner' goes tomorrow.

Umm if I were you I will be dating other girls to get rid of her emotionally, and at the same time she will be jealous & becoming more attactive towards you

Then bang! she realises what she really wants - you

I have been doing that too. She came around to my flat once and there was a woman's earring laying next to my computer. She didn't say anything but I saw her staring at it. Then later she started asking me strange questions like, "So, who was it that fixed the button on your jacket?"

Anyway, I'm glad I went to the concert with her tonight. I need things to do that don't involve drinking alcohol, as I am trying to go dry. She was all over me and we made out a lot. She has the house to herself tomorrow and has invited me around. She knows the score, I have set her straight, so I shall hopefully conclude this chapter.

I think you are setting yourself up to get hurt. Sounds like you have deep feelings for this girl and are willing to overlook the shit so you are not "alone". When you rang her back to go to the concert, it was probably a turning point that she knew she had you by the balls. I would NEXT her, why compromise? You are better than this..

She sounds clearly promiscious, but just not with you.. Why do you think that is?

Tut tut. Creating jealousy is a poor way to behave. Plus it will probably only inflate attraction temporarily in the girl's mind with regards to you being 'the only man for her'.

You should be seeing other girls to please yourself and with that the realisation will come that she is only one of many girls you could have.

No Boscher, it's not like that. I need to explain the dynamic better. She is far from promiscuous. She has only been sleeping with one guy. In the meantime, I have slept with four women and made out with another two, as well as constantly getting off with her.

She happens to share a flat with this guy, so it's a tricky situation. This set up existed well before she met me.

They are not a couple, but I think he is in love with her. Because he lives with her, he always has the opportunity to plead with her. I've met him a few times. He is a lovely guy, but far from alpha! He's more your love sick puppy dog type.

One night she met me and we just hit it off. He was immensely jealous when she left the club with me on my scooter. At that point, I didn't even know there was a story with him. She and I made out that night but nothing more.

I've had quite a few dates with her since then and we make out every time. She has been back to my house about 3 times and it has always ended in LMR; I think because she feels guilty about this other guy and also has ASD issues.

She does not have me by the balls. On the contrary, it's usually her that calls me and I often turn her down, because either I'm busy or I just don't want it to end in LMR again. In fact last night, she exclaimed down the phone, "Why is it so hard for me to get you to come out with me?"

She has described me as one of the most confident people she has ever met and says that I always seem strong and never show vulnerability, to the point of arrogance. In fact, I've had to tone it down a little to show her that I am actually human and also have many insecurities.

We've only just started hanging out again, as I blanked her out for a couple of weeks due to the LMR. However, since then she has gone out of her way to chase me quite a bit, with phone calls, texts, turning up in places where she knows I'll be. During a chat on facebook she told me she has feelings for me and has been thinking about me, wants to see me etc.

I'd be a liar if I were to say that I don't have some feelings towards her too. But at 33 years of age, with quite a bit of experience behind me, I do not fall in love easily at all!!!

I've been rendered helpless for a woman only once in my life and got drop kicked in the heart big time. It taught me one hell of a lesson and for me to fall in love now would take a VERY special woman and a lot of trust indeed.