So breif background, this girl kickboxes and heard of me and started talking to me, she added me on facebook she is absolutely gorgeous. I met up with her and she had an even better personality, really cool, independent and fun.. shes jus about to turn 18 im 21. So i had 4 dates with her, we got on well but was aware that i wasnt sexually escualting that much, probably because she talked about how guy are always perving on her and i wanted to demonstrate how i wasnt jus looking into her pants.. anyway she continued to show an interest texting me intiating alot of things. SHE text me on fri after not speaking for a while, after that i text her on sunday to let her know i won my fight, all i got back was "congrats x", then i said "heading out now for a few drinks looking forward to it ", again her reply was short, "enjoy yourself x ". i left it and didnt text her, then on tuesday i look on her facebook and she is in a relationship.... and she just put a status saying she had the best boyfriend ever.... it was pretty gutting to say the least... i mean i know i must of generated more attraction and interest than this douchebag she is now seeing, he looks like a fag.. but i think she was looking for someone that would just give her love and let her know how great she is, were i was pussyfooting around "gaming" her worrying how to play it and keeping to all this stupid pu stuff.... its fuked me again! too much knowledge is dangerous, thinking into everything looking for theories and what to do instead of just listening to myself... another point tho was that she lived 1hr drive away and i cud only see her once a week and she didnt drive so meeting up was difficult.. so may have played a role..

i lost potentially a future wife(as crzy as that sounds).. she was perfect for me in so many ways.. there is plenty more out there but FUK! i lost another one because i was playing too hard to get and using too much of this game bullshit!


so do you think i should now text her and say heard you got a bf, anychance of telling me what happened exactly?
i mean it could really help me learn from my mistakes but if i do that it makes me sound like a dick and u never know wen in a few months time theres a good chance i wil see her about and something could happen, by asking her that maybe it will fuk it up? or should i just casually text her so if i do meet her we are still on speaking terms?

stop bein a girl... ur 21... there are ALOT more girls

second if a girl talks about pervs.... it doent mean she dont like someone sexual

third off THIS IS NOT A NEW BOY, she was probly meetin u coz she was hung up over this boy, it dont mean anythin about u, but if she was already partly in love with him... u had no chance.

u are probly a good lookin lad who was getin used as a jealousy tool.... it happens.

so its not u, its the situation. suck it up and move on

Go out sarging ASAP. The quicker the better. Also good game is supposed to be real with your true self at the centre. If anything it should help you escalate quicker. good luck

Dont text her man, its better to cut all contact. I agree with phil its prob someone shes been into or maybe an ex or something. A similar thing happened to me recently. If you dont text it shows her your not bothered, and also gives you a chance at a later date when it all goes tits up

Post kinda clarified what i kinda suspecting cheers phil and i think your spot on here mate, makes alot of sense as she posted this on her wall. I Love Him, But I Couldnt This Time, A Piece Of Me Is Still Strayed Over You.

Didnt make sense before but kinda does now. Yea i was being a fuking pussy just this is the first girl i thought was actually perfect for me hard to see it end.

Feel good now ready to enjoy myself and have grown and learnt alot from this.

No that doesn't sound crazy it sounds insane!!! You are 21 and she is 18! And you're talking about marriage. And you've been on what, 4 dates? I'm also a romantic dreamer at times but also a realist when I need to be. It sounds like now is a time to be realistic.

All that stuff in your head about not being sure about escalating cause of guys perving is ALL IN YOUR HEAD. It sounds like she was shit testing you. Be man enough to acknowledge a woman's issues but show her that you are not like all the other men. You were getting IOI's from her which means she was open to be escalated. If she raises an objection then you know you have reached a boundary or a place where she is uncomfortable. In future do what comes natural. Don't live in your head. After 2 or 3 dates when nothing has escalated then you start falling into the 'Lets Just Be Friends' group. Sorry to say but it looks like thats where you are now.

Again stop living in your head. Let all your inhibition go. Knowledge isn't dangerous. It opens doors and stops you from making mistakes. Use it wisely and it will help. It probably seemed to be a "fuck you again" situation because you haven't practiced it enough. It'll be similar to kick boxing if you aren't practicing then its more difficult to win?

Using the game is great for actually opening girls and getting to know them but after that start being yourself.

I wouldn't text her asking her what happened. Its pretty clear. She has got a boyfriend. The more you try to look for answers the more questions you'll have. Just drop it and move on. she's 18 and probably doesn't even know what she really wants anyway. Move on and go out sarging. Meet other girls. A) it will be a DHV if you are out having fun meeting other girls. B) if she sees you out with other girls it might give her a jealous feeling which would be good for the future. C) you might even meet someone better?

Oh yeah and well done on winning your fight.

It looks like you have already found some of the answers you are looking for. Good luck and Be strong!

Definitely a shit test here pal! I see your dilemma, but sometimes you gotta make your intention clear.

If making your intentions clear is 'perving', then she is still playing with the boys and isn't ready for the MEN. Check my quote as well

You are being a douche caring too much, get some fuckin balls, one girl isn;t the end of the world. you played it wrong, you should have gave her the exact reaction she wanted and let her know subtly that you are going to fuck her.

Seriously move on, get a few girls laid.

Man, guys perving, your response should be something along the lines of, I feel good, look at that woman perving on you, she's pretty hot, or, lick your lips, tounge in mouth say, mmmmmmhhh look at you. I got away with telling girls they had nice tits etc tonight because I came across the right way. A guy walked down the street after I had said it and said, you have nice baps, he greased her up, she hated it, straight after I said, your tits are pretty nice but only because you flaunt them (something on these lines) she loved it, I should have K-closed, don't know why I didn't.

Lee

yeah she just sounds like a kid to me... she is 18 tho... u cant expect much more