Infield approaching video diary
Alright lads, I've been daygaming since 2018, with mixed results. I'm in my 30s and never actually had a girlfriend before, despite wanting to have sex etc since I was 13 1/2.
So, it was time to take "MASSIVE ACTION":hihi: I used to keep a diary in the form of a Notepad document on my computer, but then this year I had a great new idea on how to record my progress. I had bought a GoPro action camera for cycling but then had the idea to wear it during day game sessions so that I could record my interactions. This captures my interactions far better than any write up in Notepad or on a forum could. I often had problems with getting the woman in question to stop and I was told this was because I wasn't approaching them boldly enough and not getting right in front of them, as described in this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ay2ip-WKDOU It occurred to me that I had to stop being nervous to do the front stop and push myself out of my comfort zone, even though I find the front stop quite abrupt and not natural. I get around my local neighbourhood by bicycle a lot, so I often see a chick walking on the sidewalk and have no option if I want to approach, other than conduct a bicycle approach, which does feel awkward but coaches often say that is just a feeling "in my head" and that the girl doesn't find it awkward at all. Here is the first video in my approaching series, hope you enjoy it! I've filmed them all 6 months in advance, so bear in mind for any comments you might have on how to progress, etc. https://youtu.be/km7X-uHXd9E Edit: Embedded links don't seem to be working at the time of writing, so I'll add direct links underneath the videos as well. |
Hmm, there seems to be something wrong with embedding videos on this forum, sort it out, lads!
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Mate that's ilegal. You shouldn't be recording people around, much less posting them here. You're going to get yourself and people from the community in trouble. This is not the 2000s anymore.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8bo9E429u8 Edit: Looks like links still don't work, so you will have to copy and paste the link into your browser to watch the video. It just states what I've already told you-not illegal. There are plenty of infields recorded on YouTube, all perfectly legally. |
The best advice I could give you is to stop doing what you are doing, and never do it again under any circumstances.
I decided to give it a watch despite you already pissing me off in your original post with the revelation that you wear a GoPro and record yourself creeping women out. Because that's exactly what you're doing, creeping random girls out. If you've got 6 months of GoPro footage, no-one here really wants to see it. Whether illegal or not, anyone who's got respect for women wouldn't set out to record them against their will, with the aim of posting it on the internet. We're not about that here. You may well get other weirdos on other forums who'll virtually high 5 you and praise you for "getting out there", but absolutely everything about it is wrong on every level. You're weirding everyone out. Your opening line is you mumbling "you look like fun to talk to" From the reactions you get, it's evident that you're certainly not fun to talk to. |
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There's nothing disrespectful about what I am doing at all, it is simply a good way of keeping a progress log and inspiring other people. As for my opening line, well, that is one of the reasons I made these videos, so that people can give me feedback on how to improve my game. Quote:
There is no way to tell whether you are "creeping them out" until afterwards, when it is already too late. Not sure why you think you can take a moral high ground when you are interested in the exact same thing, i.e. game. There is nothing wrong with recording my candid experiences of my first tentative steps to interact with human females. |
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In the UK, human rights are protected by the Human Rights Act 1998. The Act gives effect to the human rights set out in the European Convention on Human Rights. Article 8 protects your right to respect for private and family life, your home and correspondence. What’s meant by private life? Private life has a broad meaning. It means you have the right to live your life with privacy and without interference. It covers things like: -your sexuality -your body -personal identity and how you look and dress -forming and maintaining relationships with other people -how your personal information is held and protected https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/la...d-family-life/ THIS IS CITIZENSADVICE, NOT A WEIRD VIDEO SOMEONE DID IN YOUTUBE So basically what you're doing is wrong, creepy, weird, desperate, not nice, and ILLEGAL. Do yourself a favor. Stop recording yourself and find a life. A real one. I did it, without gopros, and it works. And stop mumbling, please. |
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I state again (for the hard of understanding) I am completely within the law to film my interactions in public. I have posted a video explaining in simple terms (for the hard of understanding, like yourself) that it is NOT illegal to record in public. Do you feel like going on a crusade against the local council and shops CCTV recording as well? Here is another video, in case the first one didn't explain enough, also reinforced by a high ranking police officer https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=raX9Rr29O2c I am not sure what makes you think you have any sort of moral high ground or why you feel so personally offended when I haven't done anything wrong:confused: Also, what do you mean by "find a life"? Should everyone trying to actively meet women "find a life" instead? |
This is the nicest I've been on here in quite a while, so y'all better appreciate the fuck out of it!
-------------------------------- Q. Should everyone trying to actively meet women "find a life" instead? A. No, they should find a life first. Now this... "my candid experiences of my first tentative steps to interact with human females." You are creepy. There's something not right with you. Not super bad but just awkward and you cause problems, you don't know how to be social. That's why you are blind to how weird it is to film others... but even before that, your entire situation is off because you are off Read that... "my candid experiences of my first tentative steps to interact with human females." Ok, alien. Peace, kowalski |
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That is one of the reasons I am gathering reference material to better understand them. However, the poster "Catboy" seems to have taken it up on himself to decide that it is illegal, this is due to him objecting to my actions on moral grounds, which just shows his lack of ability to be objective (feminine trait, coincidentally). Furthermore, he implores me to "get a life" when that is exactly what I am doing. I am exploring the joys of meeting and flirting with the opposite gender. If I didn't go out approaching, I would merely stay in my bedroom on the computer and what kind of life is that? I do not mind further discussing my weirdness or predicament, however, posters like "Catboy" attempt to smear my legitimate means of documenting my experiences by ignorantly trying to claim that I am breaking the law, which I am not. Quote:
Should this guy also "find a life" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Ffpq06atTY (what is it with this forum, even hyperlinks don't work!) I bet because he's good looking, you would say that he's just doing something natural |
Holy shit. Full on cringe fuego.
I'll try to actually give constructive advice if possible, but you said that you filmed this 6 months in advance, so I'm going to give you the credit of assuming you might have learned maybe something since then - hopefully at least something. What do you personally think you're doing right and where do you think you're doing things wrong? Leaving the legal thing aside, why do you think this has provoked a such a negative reaction from the people on here? Edit: On top of that, how would you describe the reactions you got here, and what do you think caused that? |
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There is a difference between confidence and delusion. Why would I be jealous of you cycling up to girls like a child (as in, on a bicycle) and mumbling some bullshit, when I can approach girls like a normal person and take them out. One of the disrespectful things you are doing is the recording. The fact you don't realise it's morally wrong makes it worse. One would normally experiment with different lines to get started but it all generally comes back to being genuine, i.e. I would never go up to a girl and ask her what she's listening to if I really don't give a fuck about what she's listening to. I most certainly can take the moral high ground, because I have never once recorded women and/or interactions against their knowledge. Which yes, is morally wrong. You just can't see that. |
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I will have another try at a reply tomorrow if that post doesn't appear by then. |
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You are acting like I am taking advantage or something. "Seduction" is more "morally wrong" than recording a conversation, yet you are fine with the latter,but not the former, for some reason. It's really weird, your attitude. I have a camera on my chest, I might be recording them, so what? I'm not using a hidden camera, which would still be 100% legal, but I chose not to. There are also loads of YouTube'ers filming infields, but I don't see you railing against them. |
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In terms of what I've learnt, I'd say the following:
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The trouble is, I don't want to get done for sexual harassment so stuff like "kino" and "making the conversation sexual" are completely out of the question. My favourite quote from this first video of the series is "Why are you strapped to a camera" so much so that I decided to put it into the title:cool: Right, that pretty much covers it, I've saved a copy in case this goes into the "premod" black hole, just after I've clicked "submit". |
Right, here we go then.
When I asked you that I meant it in terms of what you actually posted rather than that, so I'm not going to address the stuff that's irrelevant to that. For most of your post, I'll just say this. Game is game, there aren't really city-specific rules aside from logistics. Even cultural shifts between countries aren't a massive deal. The key thing is having the social acuity to adapt to the specifics of individual situations and people. Given what I've seen of your game though, being non-direct, absolutely nonsexual and giving an easy way for them to disengage and leave is all essential for you right now. No offense but that's where you're at. So on to things with substance Quote:
Bear in mind especially if you're doing day game, girls aren't out with the intent of talking to strange guys. They're going about their day. They have their minds on other things. They might have a boyfriend or a guy they already know they're into. Also, being girls they have a very acute awareness that they're vulnerable in public - girls, through experience, have learned to watch out for and avoid potential situations that could involve street harassment, assault, or even just guys awkwardly hitting on them while they try to get on with their day. So let's take an example from the video. They're all basically the same, but let's pick the girl in the shorts with the headphones as an example as their's more to work with. Imagine you're that girl. You're on your way to get the bus and meet your mates or whatever, and a guy, larger and physically stronger than you, pulls up. Things you notice: - He's directly in front of you. Why? - He's on a bicycle. Why? - He's wearing a camera which, means he's probably filming you without asking. Why? - He's put his hand up directly in front of you and says stop as if he's a policeman. Why? You'd probably stop, in case this is something serious. But what at that point would you think was going on? I'd think I was being redirected by volunteer police or something. It's not impossible to get around that as a starting point if you addressed the randomness of it, but then you go: "Umm...you look quite fun to ummm... talk to" How are you supposed to react to that? This ties in with a thing Dan was saying about being genuine. Insincerity is sub communicated when talking to people, generally in the form of incongruence. The approach and the line after make absolutely no sense next to each other. If you genuinely wanted to chat with someone because you genuinely think it'd be fun you wouldn't roll up on them filming them and stop them in their tracks like that. The way you're behaving is congruent in the your context of "I'm going out to gather incel evidence by approaching women, deploying my opener I got off a youtube video and filming it", but makes absolutely fuck all sense for her. This is why people's interactions seem so baffled. It makes no sense. The opener itself is fine, but there are tons of openers that are fine. The issue is that it makes no sense to say that in that context, and on top of that you have nowhere to even go with that, even though there's a bunch of easy ways to go from there. Your heart's beating like a fucked clock, so it's a little hard to make out what she says, seems fairly non-descript. There's no flow to how you talk at all, these pregnant nervous pauses, followed by: "What are you listening to?" Again, that's not where things would organically go. It sounds like clutching at straws in a vain attempt to keep the conversation going, which comes off weird again, as that's what you saying that after an awkward pause sub communicates. Like Dan said, if you were being genuine and that was something you gave a fuck about it wouldn't have dithered out so awkwardly and you'd probably have a place to take that thread organically. But you didn't so it came off weird. At this point, if I were this girl, this whole thing would just seem weird and very uncomfortable. You're clearly trying really hard to keep her there with no clear reason at all, aside from the fact you're awkwardly hitting on her. Another hard to make out response, another awkward silence and he excuses herself. Now... You can break this down like in the above, mistake by mistake, but that isn't the root of your problem. The key thing throughout that entire interaction is that you're incongruent and you don't have good social acuity. Filming yourself doing day game is a bad way to solve that, it just won't help. Imagine if tomorrow I put you in a ring to fight an experienced boxer. Then afterwards you and some boxing experts watch it, and they break down everything you did wrong. Does that mean you can hop in the ring in a few days and fight with a different experienced boxer and do alright? Obviously not. Because the next time you're facing a different set of problems, happening in a different way in real-time. You need to work on generalised skills like balance, timing, and distance. Learning to read and empathise with people in social interactions is the exact same deal. It's a skill you learn, like balance. It's something you need in a generalised sense before you can apply it specifically, and you learn it from experience, not from watching tapes of yourself. If you won't accept the ethical argument for not filming your interactions bear the above in mind. Also bear in mind that regardless of the law people generally don't like being spontaneously filmed without consent, and it will also make people suspicious of exactly what you're up to and why you're really talking to them. So not only will it not help address the real problem, it'll start all your interactions on a bad foot You also need to learn to relax, and daygame is too weird of a social situation to be able to do that. You need to learn to socialise with people in general and to handle less intense social interactions. Try going to social events or meetups. There you can meet people in a friendly, low-pressure way and work on your acuity. If you want to do game take it down to the easiest way and baby step your way up. Ask for directions and try to keep a conversation going. Spark up friendly, platonic conversations when you see incidental chances for them out and about. Take the pressure off and learn to practice on just reading people right. To get more congruent you need to get your mind straight about this situation. You said "seduction" is worse than "filming people". You need to look at your ground assumptions about that, about women and about yourself very seriously, because from what I've seen it's pretty skewed. And if you're involved with incel communities in any way don't be. They have deeply fucked up and distorted views of society, sexuality and especially women, and they have nothing to offer you. They're far, far worse than useless. |
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Putting my hand out was simply something I watched in a video, maybe it wasn't appropriate to the situation, I don't know. As for being bigger and physically stronger, well, I've often been told women like taller guys. And even if they didn't, I can't exactly shrink myself down before I approach them, can I. I hesitated and stuttered as I delivered my opener, because it felt like a tense situation and I got really nervous. I really felt the pressure since we were face to face and I felt a responsibility to keep the conversation going. It's true, my earlier videos were tainted by incel ideology and I was feeling somewhat hopeless when I made them so there were some undertones of "proving a point" so to speak. But in general I struggle with how to hold a conversation with a complete stranger I know nothing about whom I only approached because I found them attractive. Yes, in general, this interaction was a disaster and it was one of my better ones, if you can believe that! But that was the reason that I made these videos, after all, to show people "where I am" so to speak, without having to write my observations up on forums in a lengthy manner. Quote:
You've got strong objections to filming, but I think it's a really useful tool. It makes the situations I bring to life "real", tangible, rather than just a bunch of text on a screen. It is true what you say about suspicion. I am approached by a POLICE OFFICER in one of my later videos. He tries to get me to stop filming and suggests speed dating instead. He said he "doesn't want to see me around town again". I think that concludes my series, tbh. Quote:
I think you've given me a reason to take the pressure off myself and just go down the platonic conversation route. This would severely limit the amount of approach opportunities though. I have watched a lot of daygame "propaganda" videos that tell me that it is "my fault" if I am not getting laid or a girlfriend because I simply haven't put the effort in and gone out and hustled enough. Now, I am seeing, that is a false lie, but I've had to put a lot of work in to find that out. "social events or meetups." Long term unemployed, no social circle. Not gonna happen, unfortunately. Quote:
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I've been banned from many forums. It is likely I will be banned from this one as well, at some point. Where does that leave me to go for human interaction? The incel community, again. If nothing else, these videos are proof that I have tried my utmost at the level of social skill that I have available to me. In my circumstances the opportunities to better those skills are nearly non existent. These videos are my legacy at trying to "live a life" so to speak. Despite us disagreeing, I appreciate your dialogue, Stein. It's a shame that we don't see eye to eye on videos and I am not the only one doing it out on YouTube. Search YouTube for "daygame infield" and you'll see what I mean. I am just trying to catalog my experiences, not even make profit from it. |
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It doesn't surprise me the police spoke to you. I broke down to you with an analogy how learning this really works. It's something you learn intuitively not explicitly. I've met a tom of guys who are really good at game, and I only know of one of those guys who filmed himself, and that was after he got good because he was working for RSD. It's totally unnecessary, and given that it's provoking reactions where the police eventually get involved, how could that possibly be a positive thing for you? Quote:
Or here's a thought, get a job. I mean that's something you should be doing anyway. If you want a job that'll get you super good at game, go to a nearby town and try to get weekend work as a club promoter. That's a classic for people who want a job that helps with game. Or anywhere tbh, long as it's a start. Regardless, it's no excuse. Quote:
If I talk to a girl, I know 100% beyond any doubt that it's done with really good intentions. Because I've set up my life and myself in a way where I know I bring value to that girl. If we click we'll at the very least have fun, they can meet my friends, we can have a few laughs, good sex, have fun dating and hanging out with each other, and if not, no big deal. It's all positive. But, sorry to be harsh, but that's because I have a life that I can make her a part of. Like suppose for a second you get one of these girls numbers and she wants to date you. What then? What do you do? Take her back to your bedroom and play video games? What can you offer her aside from that? Like Kowalski said, you need to get a life first. You need to be of value, with your own interests, your own shit going on, your own values and boundaries. That will be the most major fix you'll have. One of the reasons you're coming off so nervous and incongruent is because you don't have that. As if you desperately need to take something from the girl instead of trying to relate to them as a fully formed, fleshed out person Quote:
If you can take our advice to heart, and start to sincerely work on your yourself the way we've been saying you'll probably be fine on here. But if you're obstinate and make excuses to stay in the same place you might not. Quote:
Anyways, you've got advice on an easy way to get started with a better mode of doing this, anything else would be arguing over minutia. If you go about things the right way for long enough, you'll get better. If you don't things will probably just get worse. Up to you. |
I've read your post and the major thing that comes up a lot is hobbies. I do have hobbies. But what is the likelyhood of me meeting women through them? Especially of the "young and attractive" variety? I don't mean old age pensioners, obviously!
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I've been to gyms etc, never worked out in terms of women. I'm working on getting a job, of course, but I have heard of unemployed people with girlfriends, or at least laid. One of the coaches I've watched said "being unemployed is no excuse not to game". Quote:
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What counts as a "good intention"? Is wanting to have sex with her, a "good intention"? Surely that is a bad intention? I ask, because I have issues with objectifying women. I don't know why, but it takes me awhile to see past they're body. Quote:
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This is all just excuses. You can figure out shit to do where you can meet people. The point of you getting a job or getting a social life is for 2 reasons:
1. It's a good and enjoyable thing to have in and of itself 2. Like I said before, it will help you learn how to talk to people without being weird. It wasnt to get laid just by getting a job and a social circle. Unemployed people with bad lives can get girls, but they don't have the lack of social skills you do. And by the way, having friends isn't a shit load of work you have to go through, you should want to have that anyway. I mean damn. I can't believe I actually had to explain that at this point. Either you're dumb, your perspective is warped or you're being deliberately obtuse. It feels like you're deliberately missing my point. Like when I asked you what you would actually do if you met a girl who liked you, the point is that you don't have a life you could even make them a part of. That was obvious from the context. And you respond with "I'd take them for a walk to isolate". First off no. Second, obviously not what was being talked about. I've told you shit you can do, it's all straightforward, but all you're giving is pivots and excuses. I've been involved in game for 10 years now, and I always try to help people like you as best I can because I remember when I sucked, but most of the time it just ends up frustrating the shit out me. You're situation isn't too different from other people on here, and your could fix it in a year or two if you did the right shit, but guys like you seem to not want to hear about it if it contradicts their preconceived ideas about how life, game and women work. Like part of you would rather make excuses and stay a loser than acknowlegde that you might have got things wrong so far and be able to fix it. Shit's sad, but if you won't listen to me it's not worth me bothering any more. |
Lol, stein. You’re a dumb cunt.
Peace, kowalski |
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Stein often provides wayyyyy more than some newbies deserve, especially when they're refusing to listen.
But I don't mind, because I was referenced not once but TWICE in one of his posts :) |
[quote]It is true what you say about suspicion. I am approached by a POLICE OFFICER in one of my later videos. He tries to get me to stop filming and suggests speed dating instead. He said he "doesn't want to see me around town again".[quote]
And it finally happened :clapclap: Just try to get out of trouble please, you don't need to go to court to learn how to flirt. Just make a little bit of social circle, including girls, and you'll find yourself in social situations in which you can practise. Losing the irrational fear to approach, it's really nice, but remember, this fear is there for something. Mostly to help you avoid sticky situations, also jail. Avoid going around Hythe with a bike and improve yourself with a proper life before trying to improve your confidence. You can get much more confidence, for example, getting riddle of that "Long term unemployed" situation. I honestly see totally bizarre that you don't have a job for long, which is probably causing you a life of misery and privation, and instead of looking for one you waste your time creeping girls around on a bicycle until a police officer gives you a warning. Watch this video, follow it, and get a job. It took me out of unemployment in 2 weeks, after 2 years. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PFYZde5SPk And if you have time an energy to chase girls around on a bike, you have it for doing this. |
From these commnents by Stein, Kowasaki and Catboy, it seems to me that without a "life" it is impossible to meet women at all.
My whole early adulthood and 20s I never had any kind of "life". Then I saw approaching videos on YouTube and thought from them that the only reason I'd never met women was because I didn't approach them boldly in the street. But according to you guys, all along it was because I didn't have a "life". No matter what you do, without a "life" it is impossible to meet females, even if you put the leg work in. |
I know Dan, that’s why I got all jealous.
OP, then you also can’t read because I said no such thing. Peace, kowalski |
It is nice to be quoted. Also, re the above I believe it was I who said (like literally a page ago):
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I would see basic social skills as knowing when to say please and thank you, knowing what to say in certain circumstances, like not talking about irrelevant stuff at a funeral. Or in a day game sense, being friendly and not bringing up inappropriate topics like sex etc. But you are saying basic social skills are more than that, which I didn't realise. |
When to say please and thank you is almost the lowest level imaginable.
What is lower than that? Not randomly invading people's personal space? Only full on retards or heavily drunk/drugged peeps do that. Anything else so low will be equally as insane. Very young children 'know' when to say please and thank you. Your oddness dips to levels imperceptible to you because of your oddness. (Bastardised Locke quote) Peace, kowalski |
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CruWxo_Ou4Y This guy tells girls to stop, gets in front of them, yet doesn't get criticised for it. But when I do the same, I get criticised for it!? |
That’s not true.
Peace, kowalski |
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