ME: married 8 yrs, brd 5 more years. 13 years off the market. 3 months single getting wasted everytime I go out.

Last night was my first night out since reading The Game and The Mystery Method.

Got let down by the lads at tea time - one is banging the bird that date raped him (don't ask) and the other is recovering form an accidental drug incuced halucinagetic episode. Again don't ask unless I see you in person cos it's a funny story but takes a bit of telling.

So I eventually went out with some other mates at about 12:30, HB9, sister, brother and extra friend.

The night:
For some reason the drink wasn't affecting me and I was noticing stuff in peoples interactions. This PUA stuff has opeed my eyes!

Social proof rocks! Kino Escalation was working on both sisters (they are usually stand-offish), esp the hot one and I was getting lots of passive IOI's - looks, the odd smile, a good bit of proximity of a couple of groups. To my surprise and elation, this was all seeming to fall in place with what I have read. I was on a buz now, so in a quiet toilet break, I was thinking of a Gambler video I had seen, that if I am getting my terminology right (I'm pretty new to all this still) was referring to inner game more than the body language it was displaying.

So I started to enjoy it and walk around with the attitude that I could get any of these lasses if I wanted to and I followed a few pointers on body language - slow down, don't directly stare at hotties etc (this one is tough) and I even managed to get some forced IOI's. I can't believe this shit works! I wouldn't have tried forced IOI's if the night hadn't been going so well. Next time I'll use them to open.

I had my ass grabbed twice by reasonable looking lasses - I returnd the favour and carried on, I wasn't on the pull, I was out with some really nice friends, but it was good anyway. One lass put her arm out to stop me walking past. She was a 9 in the ass and tits, but a 7 in the face.

I met some blond lasses I know and the social proof fired up the HB9 I was with, but she's a friend and only 19 (I'm 33) so I wasn't gonna take advantage while she was dunk. Her hands were on my ass a lot and she kept leading me by the hand and hugging etc. The guys that tried to chat her up seemed weak and unable to pull her away whereas they normally would. I'd just interact confidently nad friendly and mostly they'd give up.

The kino escalation stuff is good and the thing mystery does on youtube where he makes them do a spin worked a lot too. I've not had time to sit and analyse the night yet, but I think there's some hoops and compliance testing in there somwhere.

Is the Mystery method the best source for breakdown of behaviours an terminology, or is there a better souce (yeah I know its canned openers etc give it a bad name in some peoples eyes, but for an introduction to the terminology, explaining the basics etc, I find it invaluable.) I'll be thumbing through it again later.

All in all a good night even though I wasn't opening per se, it shows me that ths stuff is good and encourages me to plough on.

I need to keep this up and try opening sets but more than anything it has vindicated Inner game for me. I think that mastering inner game & body language will far outdo any routines/canned material I can learn. I'll still learn some for the situations where I'm lost and need a backup, but inner game and body language has to be at the top of my list.

John

Leeds people: Oceana on a Thursday is ACE. The students are all back (but even when quiet in the summer it was good), its £1 per drink and I love it! The local bars have cheap 'warm up' nights (sometimes even cheaper) and it's easier to talk to girls in them due to lower noise.

Mystery method has some very good break downs of interaction, but it also has a very bad reputation for using lots of lines, routines and canned openers.

So I think you should stick to what works for you, and you'll naturally evolve out of using the canned bits.

Thanks for the advice. I've not tried any canned stuff yet, but in the past I have beenstuck for words at times.

I reckon I'll end up learning a couple of openers and value routines for those awkward moments, if for no other reason that some of them are really funnyand I'm a natural piss-taker.

But you are right, If I can do it natural, then I won't need them at all.