Well. I can’t really do this field report without saying how I got into Pick up in the first place. Cefai is actually the name of my last one-itis. To cut a very long story short, I was absolutely in love with her. We both had a mutual love for a certain band and being the chode that I was and mistaking her friendship for love, I bought us both tickets to go see them as a date. Even with no job and no money, I spent the £80 on the tickets. She accepted, but after I told her my feelings and stuff she just went cold on me and eventually gave me a bullshit excuse on why she couldn’t go with me to see the band. Realising how shit I am with women I did something about it and here I am now. (wow, I actually went red reading that back) When thinking about a pick up name I thought it would be a good idea to name myself after her and if I ever got good with women, the name would remind me of how useless I was....I know using her name is going to bite me in the arse sooner or later.

The reason I mention this is because I was out with her this weekend. It was another night of reflecting how much I’ve changed. After the concert incident we didn’t speak for a while and if we did it was like we were strangers talking. Our relationship has warmed back up since then and now we’re back to how we always were, her being flirtacious with me, and me taking the bait like a little bitch. But even after learning pick up I’ve acted like the chodey chodemonster I’ve always been around her (Obviously not trying to pick her up anyway, I won’t be trying that again) I have been out with her in bars and stuff a few times since my time in the game and only once pulled in front of her. A big turning point was a few months ago, we were in a bar in London and I pretty much ignored her the whole night, I was in state and making love to the whole room, chatting to everybody. After watching me chat to a few girls and ignoring her flirting quite a bit, she kept making advances and whispering in my ear “have you got a girlfriend now? You’ve got a girlfriend haven’t you?” She was totally distraught and confused as to why I was so unresponsive to her trying to toy with me. Since then she went travelling and has come back. Saturday night a friend of ours was having an engagement party in Cheltenham. Here’s how things went...from what I remember...

Me and all my friends meet up in the afternoon, state wise it’s looking unpromising. I’m being my old chodey self and being really quiet, the real Cefai is looking amazing which really doesn’t help. The night begins at my friends house for a house party. I’m still being quiet chode boy and just listening to other peoples conversations rather than creating my own. I look over to the real Cefai, she’s already mingling with strangers and chodes. Time goes on, more drinking and more being quiet. A bit of karaoke starts and I use it to open a hb7 kicking myself up the arse to get in conversation. After a really good, high energy interaction, I’m in state and my confidence is high. I open a hb8 almost instantly after she’s got a boyfriend but give a shit. I’m not trying to close her, just building my state. After this I can’t stop myself wondering the room and talking to everybody I don’t know at the party. This carries on until we hit the club Thirteendegrees.

We get to a VIP room and more drinking happens and more talking to strangers and cute girls. The real Cefai comes up to me a couple of times just to check in, but it’s more friendly chit chat than anything else. I tell my friend (we’ll call him D) about the wildcard game and that we should play it downstairs. Acting like Mr Big bollocks he agrees, but when we get downstairs it’s a different story. I’m wildcarding him but he just plain refuses to open. The real Cefai comes downstairs and like always, starts flirting with me and trying to get a reaction out of me. She grabs my hand and I lead her and my friends to a spot on the dance floor. We dance for a little bit and I’m itching to open a set but can’t pick a target. I get my friend to wildcard me. He decides to test my skills and points me to a 7 set birthday party. “Fuck”. I walk over to them and open them with my usual canned line. I get instant rapport with all the girls. We’re laughing and having fun. Because we’re on the dance floor I pull out my dance floor game by bumping arses with a girl to my left then spinning a hotter girl on my right. I start chatting her up but suddenly I feel something bumping me in the back and touching me up. I turn around and it’s the real Cefai....and she’s jealous. I give her a look as if to say “what you playing at?” I then go back to my target tell her I’m going back to my friends and get a kiss on the cheek.

I dance with my friends for a bit whilst randomly turning away from our little circle we’ve made and randomly doing gangster handshakes with random guys and high fiving random girls. I then see a bored looking 2 set by the wall and instantly go and open them. It’s a bit of a crap interaction in all honesty. They’re laughing at my jokes but they’re clearly not warming to me. The fact that we’re right next to loud speakers doesn’t help. I’m using shitloads of kino and this must of given the real Cefai the wrong impression, because she is right behind me when I turn around to exit the set.

She turns round and backs into me and we start grinding. I physically push her away and her reaction tells all, she can’t believe it. She turns to me with a shocked expression and starts laughing. She hugs me and kisses on the cheek. “Stay strong!” I think. Out of nowhere I whisper in her ear “I want you to dance for me” then push her away again. To my surprise, she does and pretty damn seductively. I keep my cool and whilst straight faced I just watch her, crossing my arms in a judgemental way. It’s actually driving her crazy but I keep my distance.

More dancing and drinking later and I’m starting to lose my head a bit. I even grind up to my hot lesbian friend and try the pulling her hair thing. She turns, slaps me and asks “what the fuck you do that for!” this makes me laugh pretty hard. I dance with the real Cefai some more but the difference to every other time we meet is that I’m toying with her. I’m literally push-pulling her. We dance close, I push her away, she hugs and kisses me, I push her away, we grind and I push her away. This goes on for a while. She’s loving it and I’m loving the role reversal. It’s confusing her that I’m unresponsive to her advances.

I go and open an absolute hottie late in the night. I dance with her and all three of her friends and kino like a champ. It’s a great little interaction and I remember something being mentioned on this forum about taking pictures of our nights out with girls. This is my pathetic attempt on an iphone with the hottie. Note the use of the claw haha:

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I’m now also like a god to my friend D now. He watched a hb 7 go past and was clearly into her. I opened her for him. “Do you think my friend looks like a drug dealer?” I point at D and she looks him up and down. After chatting to her I get her to approach him and give him a full body search. She gets up to him real close and puts both her hands in his pockets and pulls everything out, handing them to me. She then sticks her hand in his pocket again and starts rubbing his knob! He likes this, I can tell by the smile on his face.

That’s pretty much all the pick up related stuff of the night. I didn’t close the real Cefai and I have no intentions to. This attitude and the role reversal I now know I can create has shown me change. Not really in my game, but my change in personality and attitude.

I’m starting to like the new me.

Sounds good!
You must be strong to keep your distance from Cefai!
But most likely best in the long run!

nice post post, sound like your becoming quite the pick up artist.
As much of a cock tease the real Cefai is, she's really helping you DHV, women want what other women want.
Just stay allusive mate, don't fall into her man trap. an stop hitting on lesbians

Do you actually no longer want her?

i think he wants her but he

a) a bit scared cos she will start playing games
b) he wants to fuck with her a bit now and fuck up her mind like she did his

i only think this cos its happened to me and thats what i did. brought the girl to tears.

Im not into that shit man, I know how tempting it would be and im always up for “no strings attached sex” but I would not fuck a girl just to fuck with her emotions, even if she did deserve it.
But maybe that’s just me and my fucking conscience.

Cefai, my advice would be to forget about her man, plenty more fish and all that bollocks.

I'm not going to lie. The feelings are still there for her and I still do want her. But these are something I'm trying to get rid of. As long as I'm able to approach girls and enjoy myself, I'm not going to try and entertain those feelings for her anymore. I've been there, I've done that and I really wasn't happy.

As for fucking with her head. Fair enough, there's a little bit of temptation there but I'm not going to be doing that. Well, not on purpose. I've been on the receiving end of it and it's not nice. The real Cefai is only flirty when we're wasted, obviously this is when she tries toying with me. When we're sober and normal she's actually a really cool girl and one of my best friends. So I don't really have intentions of upsetting her.

I hate chicks who feel it necessary to play games. I've got no time for it.

Good report mate, had no idea where you're name originated from.

'I'm not going to lie. The feelings are still there for her and I still do want her. But these are something I'm trying to get rid of'

Perhaps time for a name change, drop it....Why have her name hanging over you?

I thought that too.