Basically i went out with a few friends tonight only one out of fourhas slight understanting of pua not including myself. But i have a bit of a dilema between me and my pua mate and my other friends who are at this point in writting i feel a bit clueless.

Anyway to the point. My mates were out of the dance floor just sitting there bored so i was egging them on to just come on and have a laugh. Then this chick out of no where starts grinding upagainst me with my back to her at this point and then carrys on full on trying to get my attention. I took this as a massive attention seaking opp so tryed being all pua and igoring it slightly. But she still contiuned and then started trying with other guys. Not only my mates were like why are you ignoring her i felt like the whole dance floor of guys were like why? But my slightly pua got the point in what she was trying to do. Im just abit confused on what i should of done. Because i didnt do anything. What i think i should of done is took her to aside and gave her a neg ha?

I dont know im really new to this and have a massive lack in confedence.... I just need a few pointers in what i should of done

I think you done the right thing by not instantly turning round and dancing with her as you would've just looked like one of the other chodes in the club, but pulling her to the side and negging her was probly your best bet, ''do you always dance with peoples back'' or something along the lines and then into push pull would've probably been my strategy which usually seems to work a treat whereas dancing straight away with her makes you look just like everyone else which is obviously not what you want, in the meantime learn from it and forget about it, the confidence will come soon enough mate

Firstly, this isn't really a field report.

Secondly, in my opinion, you don't really make yourself look bad if you turn around and have a dance, you're just having fun. You do not know what is going through her mind, wether she is genuinely interested or if she is just attention seeking, the only way to find out for definite is to turn round, try to talk to her and feel her out. If she seems like she isn't interested, oh well at least you tried and this thread probably wouldn't exist, but at least you'd feel you gave it a go.

Also, i'm not a great believer in negs but even if I was, why would you neg a girl before your even introduced to her, that isn't going to help. You wouldn't walk up to a random girl and neg her before saying anything else.

the girl was obivously expecting you to turn striaght around and dance with her so thats the reason you become different and dont do it, girls like it when they find someone different. i didnt say you look bad when you turn and dance with her but more along the lines of the push pull technique-why not start with the pull then push, when a girls on the dancefloor trying to dance with you chances are shes not going to want to stop dancing and start a conversation with you thats why its probly best to spin her then bounce her off the dancefloor

im not a great believer in negs also but there must be a 100 openers that are negs so to say its not going to help isnt right, all women are different but some actually get off on chasing the man so using something like ''i like your haircut, did you do it yourself'' as an opener is going to get a good response with an attention seeking girl

I can understand ignoring her for about 20 seconds or so, but after that I'd think to actually do something. Ignoring her is a non verbal neg anyway, and is a push before the pull,so attempting 2 negs in a row or two pushes, non verbal and verbal is asking for trouble.

If you lack confidence as you say, you want to start having normal conversations with girls before you even start thinking of negs, cocky/funny, push/pull and any other various technique. If you have no confidence then you can try any technique you want and it won't work. Make it your aim, to go out, speak to girls normally, gain some confidence from that and when you feel you can hold down a normal conversation then start thinking about the rest.

but in this instance you cant just turn around and have a normal conversation with a girl that is practically humping your back wanting a dance, but agreed on the idea of building your confidence before any technique if your not too experienced

Yeah I agree you can't have a normal full blown conversation but if you turn around and even just simply ask her name, you can normally tell wether they are interested in how they respond or look. If they ignore you then obviously they are just attention seeking, if she leans in then chances are she is interested.