The other day I got this girls number in my class who i've been into from a distance for a while. She's got a boyfriend but I decided to get her to come out clubbing with me n' my mates.
I have to say I was on my A-game all night, even persuading her to come out, she's not normally a fan of clubbing so I had to neg her a bit to convince her just saying I thought she was cool and maybe I was wrong and stuff.
I'm in a predicament now because as I said I know she's got a boyfriend and if anythings going to make me stick somewhere its that, so now i'm thinking she must just see me as a friend. But we were together all night, i was flirting like a pro and had there was great kino both ways, at one point one of my friends started dancing with her so i went and started talking to one of my girl mates who she doesn't know and she was back by my side within seconds. every time a song came on we didn't like she either dragged me off to a quiet corner or out for a cigarette. I probably could have kiss closed at one of these moments when i was alone with her but this is a seriously bad sticking point for me, (plus the boyfriend thing made me nervous of rejection)
When we finally leave the club my mates get a taxi home and we decided to walk (great some alone time were we can actually hear each other right?) but one of my mates decided to come back in the taxi and pick us up despite him knowing i wanted to be alone with her (drunk bast*rd)
So heres the kicker, my mates were being really loud in the lounge, were my HB had planned to sleep on the sofa, but even though my mate offered his bed, she still ended up in mine. we start having this really in depth conversation, in my bed, all the while about 3 inches away from each other, and now all my game chooses to desert me, i'm telling myself she's not interested she's got a boyfriend but my close was right there an i didn't take it. I had this beautiful 8 in my farking bed and i didn't close.
Because of the nature of the conversation (we talked all night and learned we have all this shiz in common) I figure i'm teetering over the edge of the proverbial friend zone. we've agreed to meet up at hers just to hang out soon but I almost don't wanna call incase i'm just organising another chance to mess up,
So do you guys think i still have my chance to close here or am i condemned to the friend zone? I started the night looking for a shag and now i see serious GF potential..

If you don't want to be put in the friend zone, you have to show intent. Let her know what you are after and how you feel, otherwise you will end up being just a friend to her. The sooner you show intent in an interaction, the better.

Also to me, if she's staying in your bed and you are that close and she's comfortable, I'm not sure there's a bigger IOI other than her saying ''fuck my brains out''.

Also to me, if she's staying in your bed and you are that close and she's comfortable, I'm not sure there's a bigger IOI other than her saying ''fuck my brains out''.[/quote]

i no mate everything just went out the window. It was a truly shocking end to the night on my part. Still i'm gonna see her over the weekend, this aint over

This seems to be your main problem, as is the fact she is off your course. I'm guessing you must feel nervous about her turning you down for fear of what others might think (off your course). Unless you feel you can brush these feelings of pride aside you will be in a bad position to pull any trigger.

You are starting to distort things now you feel you can't escalate with her. It's all very nice that you got on but really there are going to be plenty of others out there who you'll get on with, and they'll be 9 or 10/10. You should never view a girl you have not dated / slept with as relationship material (it just puts unreasonable pressure on you).

Do yourself a favour and open up your options to girls you don't know. The baggage that comes with work or course girls can make for awkwardness all round... unless you learn to take it in your stride.

It's interesting how that is overlooked (myself included).

This is even more reason to get yourself out there to give you more options Intrigue. Why the hell are you limiting yourself to a girl who is not even available! No girl is worth dedicating that much energy to.

You're totally right. The fact she's on my course should be enough to turn me away, I need to open myself up to the bigger picture, fuck it. Getting involved with her wud have been stupid.

It sounds to me as if you're starting out (judging on your intro). This kind of mindset is something you will slowly learn to leave behind. It took me a long time to realise, but I was still chasing stupid causes until last summer. On that occasion it was a girl from my course. I thought I was being ballsy confonting her on the last night of the course admiting I liked her (after befriending her for 3 months). it was that moment I realised I was making the same old mistakes. Never again.

Hitting on girls that you full well know have a boyfriend is appalling behaviour. If the guy smashed all your teeth out you'd only have yourself to blame.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but don't do it mate. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?