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Originally Posted by michael81
so we meet up last sunday and go for a drink and see Avatar, i paid... demonstrated lots of higher vale, i picked her up and dropped her off at home.
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This isn't higher value. This is trying to impress her. She will sense this, which lowers your value.
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Originally Posted by michael81
maybe its cos she is shallow and sees this little world of... people buying her stuff, not having to pay to get into places etc.
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But this is exactly what you did, right?
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Originally Posted by michael81
her pics reaked off pretentiousness... She was pretentious, loved going to the top nights in london, loved partying, told me she did coke at weekends (i dont like that much so told her)
said some other stuff, like whenever she goes out she trys not to pay with her mates at whatever club she goes to..
she wasnt very intelligent, she was a PA and her interests in life was looking pretty... she was hot but i couldnt really see it going anywhere with her admitions of coke - drink driving etc.
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I'm going to be blunt: She sounds like just about the least desirable girl on the planet, and I wouldn't touch her with a fucking barge pole. Send her the bill for her cinema ticket, and anything else you bought her - she wasn't worth a penny of it.
Seriously though, can't you see that she's using guys to feel good about herself and doesn't really give a shit about them? She's a blood sucker on an ego trip out for all she can get. Leave her to the toads on dating websites, get out into the real world, and approach any girl you like the look of. Some of them are really great to talk too and are actually nice people that you'll want to be around. This one sounds like a fucking nightmare.
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Originally Posted by michael81
what is chemistry???... [i] still feel pissed off i didnt create any what she called 'chemistry' any tips lads on creating chemistry and what u think it actually is??
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Forget this. Chemistry to this girl is an excuse. Either that or what used to come between Maths and morning break. Chemistry hasn't got anything to do with it. She got what she wanted - a free night out - and moved onto the next one. You're probably only the latest in a long line.
The first and last tip on having chemistry with a girl is to find one with a personality you actually like, and one who values you for your own personality. After this, everything else takes care of itself. Its natural.
My reading of this is that her value to you was being blonde and attractive. Personality didn't come into it.
Your value to her was being male and someone she could leech from. Personality didn't come into it.
And as others have said - get away from internet dating websites. They cater for two types of people:
1. Guys who can't meet girls in real life.
2. Girls who don't get approached by guys in real life.
If you're number 1, that's ok, because it is fortunately a skill which can be learned, just as any other skill, with practice and persistence. But it won't solve itself whilst you're wasting your time on the internet.
Be grateful you're not number 2. There isn't much you can do if you're in that category. Except maybe stop snorting coke and drink driving.