Did my first cold approaches for months at the weekend.

Was a bit nervous but I've noticed that whenever you get a girlfriend/other issues and you have a hiatus, it's like the gym, in that you seem to get back to where you were a bit quicker each time.

Took the number of a co-worker too on Sunday in my volunteer job- not sure if it's a date but it all felt good.

I think momentum is important.

I'm still on here because I think I can still improve and build on the already major strides I've made in the last 5 years.

Slowly unfreezing.
Tinder date with cute Romanian girl:
Thought she wasn’t into me, but she wants to meet again.
Lecture- took a number and opened a girl on the tube who’d been there too but didn’t close
Volunteer Work colleague
Tried it on - it wasn’t smooth but I ended up literally saying I think you’re hot, not looking for girlfriend, how about it more or less.
It was honest cards on the table- there’s another guy she likes who she just met and also she goes off the leash at some sports festival coming up and shags anything that moves. She also thought I was younger- outside her age range, I don’t see the point in lying about it now, something I have done in the past.
Tried kissing her a couple of times- she wasn’t up for it.
I feel a bit flat this morning, I would have loved to have had her, but I’m actually proud of the fact that I didn’t just go home not expressing what I thought and what I wanted.
I have 5 other internet dates lined up.
I’m trying to find what works for me now, it seems to be a mix of:
Focusing on other stuff I have going on none women related
Internet dates
daygame -people who cross my path rather than going out specifically to do it
doing stuff I like or am interested in and seeing who is there
being more courageous on dates and escalating
I’m never sure whether physical escalation is a sticking point for me or just to chill and enjoy the date, given you can’t control the outcome anyway.
Any feedback welcome- I just want to maximise my opportunities and enjoy life.

Romanian wants to meet again which surprised me.
Couple of internet dates lined up - one was awful reminding me why approaching real people is good.
I'm still irritated about the volunteer colleague but can see the futility.
I number closed a cute Indian girl in a bar last week, first close in a while-hopefully see her this week.
Lots of personal stuff going on- diary busy.
I have a question about daygame which I'll post in the general chat.

A good week.
Bit of work recently after a year without - big mental shift.
Indian girl, went for kiss but clumsily at end of date, rejected. Suggested she contact me, she was kind of 'oh like that is it!'. Did nothing she's now texting me.
Polish bi-girl- she is jolie laide- quirky, smart as a whip. Went for kiss, rebuked, chilled enjoyed the date- made out later.
Course finished- chatting to a fit Czech air hostess, was going to close but some dude hanging about- thought leave it, got number of cute English girl instead.
3 other dates lined up this week.
I'm really enjoying focusing on other things, but excited about having women coming into my life again.
Crucially though going for kiss and escalating as soon as possible to avoid the nonsense 6 date expensive date cycles that were non-sexual and a waste of time.
I also need to close down my long standing f-buddy in a tactful way as I want to move on to pastures new.

great stuff, can tell you're having lots of fun with it too!

For some reason I am intent on acting like Mr Magoo around Indian girl- this week a horribly clumsy attempt to kiss, leaned in realised I hadn't done the math and was 6 inches short and toppling- the kiss became a big thing and I was too self deprecating. She's texting me, it might be one more date though, I think she is withholding now, maybe a bit manipulative.
Polish bi-girl made out again, really fun date, not the hottest girl in the mix but super intelligent and a massive geek, button brown eyes. I need to escalate now, push it more.
English girl- 10 years younger, cute, leggy - back to hers for an awesome, mind blowing experience. I want more but she will have options, we'll see.
Romanian gone cold.
English pof girl email from her at 2am' I'm not sure about forthcoming date' (2nd cancellation) told her good luck, only want girls who are excited to meet me.
Date lined up for tomorrow English woman.
Chatted to American on Tinder, looking for a good time not the one- will try to get her out.
Course girl texting- she's cute.
Long term Fbuddy dealt with well - lovely email exchange big compliments all round, that's important to me, leave things better than you found them.
I'm developing strong boundaries now, I need to keep with it, no nonsense from flaky girls, escalate and push the interactions ( it still feels like trying on clothes that aren't mine I have to admit but it's the only way).
More cold approaching would be good too- not looking for signals has chilled me out, it was weirding me out- but not much action being taken.
Also focusing on other stuff- just bought vastly overpriced ticket for New Order at brixton, happy days.

True Faith was a choon!

Met English hottie a few times, doesn't want a boyfriend just fun, she's kind/hot/awesome.
Older English woman, kinky just wants fun we'll see.
American Tinder no chemistry, sacked it after one drink-old me would have been pc
I'm trying to escalate more and be more vocal and honest about what I want.
Polish another make out, tried to get her back to mine , no dice and a lecture about why I shouldn't have said I wanted to fk her- will sack it off.
Indian petered out into endless texts so will can that too.
Cute course girl, good date wants to meet again.
Two or three new women a week coming upstream from online.
Went to a solo event last week, met some dudes then a few cold approaches. It's the free-est I've ever felt approaching genuinely just wanted to find out about the girls, no numbers but fun.
I'll keep posting questions when I need help with stuff.
At the moment it's enjoy the variety and sex of one/two women I have on the go
Escalate and be more sexually overt (within reason) with new dates than I'm used to ( it works)
More cold approaching- but in the course of life not earmarking time for it
Get balance, hugely important - friends/gym/job hunting
I'd forgotten how time consuming chasing women can be!

More positive experiences with women.
Still seeing the English hottie- it will probably burn like a roman candle.
Also course girl came back to mine. This was particularly pleasing because the date was petering out into matey, tedious conversation. It was quite surreal I almost had an outer body experience and could just see/feel it happening. I'm starting to see now that whilst you can't control it, you have a responsibility to escalate and move it along. I can also see now that this doesn't have to be physical- in the end I just asked and the response was Yes.
There isn't a set of tricks for all occasions, there's just a general intuitive idea of where you are, what you might try and what feels comfortable. I think the more experienced you are the more accurately you read this and the more you trust your instincts.
I sacked off the Polish and Indian girls.
Italian is texting again.
Strange times though.
Still without work/cash which has to be affecting confidence on some level- I remember Mark Manson suggesting you need to get the fundamentals in place before dating.
Not making many cold approaches- when I do chat to strangers it tends to be very natural now but that means it's happening less.