Blimey, that's quite a response from everyone! Thanks for the input guys, I'll fill you in on where everything is at the moment.

I asked her if she was doing Lab last night, but she wasn't since she was skint. It was a shame - I was going to explain the other night to her and see how things went. I went along nonetheless (I'm glad I did too, KOAN Sound were awesome - anyone who likes dubstep should check them out) and had a bloody good night. Over the course of said night, I somehow gleaned the information that, despite being skint, she was at a different club not too far away. Probably not a good sign...

Like I said before, I'm probably not going to make an effort to continue with this persuit. Things have become too messy and potentially awkward. Instead, I'm going to identify my mistakes (because there were some aside from being in a gash mood that night), learn from my mistakes and move on. As is, I've probably left it too late to explain the other night, and (as a result of some mistakes) I can feel the Friend Zone looming over the horizon. I've seen her a few times now, and nothing has happened. It's probably unlikely to now.

To address your point Hustler, one of the main reasons I'm moving on is that I don't "really like" her. Don't get me wrong, she's a lovely girl - quirky (the way I like 'em ), easy to talk to, not up herself or uptight and she is a genuinely nice person. But at the end of the day, I only really want to sex her. I don't see the relationship going any further than that - in several important ways, she's not my type - so it's no big deal to move on.

So anyway, mistakes I made (being in a low mood aside):

1) Far too little kino over the course of the several meetings we had. This is an area of game I need to work on big time, but at the same time, I think it's something that will come naturally. It's definitely not something that can be forced.

2) I didn't kiss her soon enough. This was partly due to her huge mate being there the first couple of times, and (despite saying they were just friends) being very close with her, and partly due to it not feeling right or natural. This latter reason was my mistake - mostly me getting a bit stuck in my head and not taking decisive, dominant action.

3) Too little statement of intent. Despite some saucy texts threatening a damn good spanking, and a liberal sprinkling of "SOI" compliments, I think she was in doubt that I actually liked her. Mostly this was me just needing to man up and let her feel the Gs!

I do take on board what you guys have suggested about carrying on and having nothing to lose - I plan to phone her at some point for a chat. The difference is, I'm expecting nothing and persuing nothing. If something comes of that, awesome. If not, like you said, I've lost nothing.

Haha, the classic huge mate. Always there to throw a spanner in the works on a night out!