Hey guys,

Right if you have been following my last report report "absolute amazing day", you will know I went on a day 2 with this very good looking girl, but I never made the move. Well last week, I said to her, look let me cook for you on sunday, we will wash the cars, and watch a movie or something. She said "Well I'll see what I have planned". So on Saturday, I phone her and she never picked up, I thought the worst. However she text me later. I tried to make arrangements but she said, "I will text you in the morning before 1pm and tell the plans for the day". The text convo when like this:

Her: "Afternoon hun, how was ur nite? Ive decided 2 chill 2day catch up with a few bits and bobs. x x x" (which is a nice no)

Me: Cool no probs! We'll have to sort it out another time! I had a really good night thanks! Quite hung over 2day tho lol! You sorted thing out after yesterday? x x x

Her: Well i'm fresh as a daisy feels gud. Still tired tho! So did you get laid? (I had a funny facebook status, which is were this comment came from) lol I have better thing to think about other than what happened....like fallen (Fallen is a porn dvd which we both like) pmsl! x x x

Me: Nope, no lucky girl got me last night = P! Its a shame you can only think about Fallen, rather than be watchin it! (I have the dvd, she doesnt) ;-P X x x

Her: Im starting to get bored now went for a walk this afternoon but thats about it, my problem is I say I need 2 relax and do nothing then get bored after 3hrs alone lol x x x

Me: Haha! Well my offer still stands to watch a dvd? I will bring you a copy of fallen round! x x x

Her: haha! Decisions, Decisions im so tired but bored bloody downstairs has music on full driving me crazy, he's a dj and has 12 grands worth of equipment there. ahhhr x x x

I then called her and said she should come round to for mine for a DVD, she said her mum had invited her, so I said "look family comes before friends, you go to your mums"

20 mins later I get a text

her: I am on my way 2 urs, I dont wanna go to my mums. We'll do hut then drive or something x x x

Anyway she comes round and my flat mates see her, and coz they are quite young get giggly, coz she had been to her mums she was'nt dress to the T like she normally is and then decided that she wanted to go to hers to get changed, so they see her when she is looking good! Anyway went for food and talk loads about sex and just random crap!

Then went back to mine, she was on the bed, I wanted to show her some video clips on my comp and tapped my lap for her to sit on it, she said "I dont think that's a good idea! and I am too heavy" So i just left it put my hand her thigh instead and slowly worked up her thigh, she seemed to be fine with it, we chatted and then both went on the bed. I had my hand semi up her thigh and was moving closer, then she called me out on it "where is that hand going Mr" So i pulled out and started again, this time got very close and she called me out again, and we had abit of awkward silence (all this time in the back of my mind I had a thought of kowalski saying "fuck body language", "its always on!"). So I carried on but she kept making it sorta difficult for me to get any closer. Anyway I said, look I am pretty tense, give me a massage, she said "No", so i said okay "I will give you one then!" she said no! Anyway we carried on chattin.

Now, whilst having a chat she said:

- I made my last bf wait 2 months before we had sex, I didnt want it to be a one night stand


Now I am not sure if she is doing the same to me..... or if that is a hint?

Another puzzle is she said

"Look babes I am shattered, I am going home, I was going to stay here but I have loadsa things to do 2morrow", she also mentioned she had turned all her light off in her flat as she wasn't planning on going back there 2night! So I am really not sure where I went wrong, I tried to escalate and if she had let me get too her forbidden fruit, I would have just made out with her and that would have been it, but she would call me out on it all the time! Grrr

Things I did well:

- Escalated very well, but didnt hit gold
- Convo was easy and was about sexual topics
- Got her back to mine, with us both on the bed


Thing I didnt do well on:

- Never got enough escalation that I felt that I could make out, without her calling me out on it


A few questions:

- Right so I have seen her last weekend and this weekend, carry on seeing her next weekend? Thoughts guys?

- I tried escalating and then going for the kiss, I thing is if I had made the move she would have called me out on it (I am sure on it), so was trying to get some sure signals that she wanted it before making the move. However do you think I should have made the move then escalated?

- Any other comments

Cheers

Tom

I think you just have to go for it, she might call you up on it but use your dazzling wit! For all you know she could have been saying those things so she doesn't appear easy to you when in fact she just wanted you to jump on her.

You had her on your bed, I would have taken that as all the signs I need to go in for the kiss! Do you want a relationship with her? because the longer this goes on the more likely she'll be hurt if it's just a flinf and more power you are giving her to pick, choose and dictate what happens.

ideally I want a relationship! However it is frustrating me that we cant get the sexual side out of the way and then we can move on. I am really concerned that I may end up in the friends zone.