Date: Thursday 18th July 2013

‘’Challenge Accepted’’ – Dynamic87

If you had told me a year ago that I would be sitting down writing my very own blog on becoming a PUA I would have laughed in your face. But here I am this Thursday evening ready to begin the journey on not just becoming a PUA but to improved my life as whole…

The Story So Far.

Let me take you back to last April, back then I was a shop assistant at a supermarket on a basic wage, I lived at home with my parents in which I shared a room with my younger brother. I had a girlfriend and we had been together just under five years, it was a long distance relationship but we saw each other every weekend and sometimes during the week as well. I also had plenty of friends in the village so socialising wasn’t a problem. I was pretty content with life, I was comfortable with the way things were going. I had an income, a roof over my head, a girl I was in love with and we spoke about getting engaged (I planned on popping the question in July) and then in one fell swoop everything had come crushing down on me.

It started off with a few changes in the supermarket and my job became more hassle than it was worth. I used to enjoy my job but management started becoming stricter and impossible targets were being set and the job become very stressful. During this time a close friend of mine then moved out to Afghan for around nine months, and he was the guy I used to spill everything to. A few weeks down the line I found out from someone that my girlfriend had been having an affair with someone, and this broke my heart. I loved this girl to the moon and back and worshipped the ground she walked on, and her doing that damn near killed me.
So here I was in a stressful job, trying to cope with the heartbreak of being lied and cheated on. Could it get any worse? Well it turns out I came home one night to find my mum and sister crying in my kitchen and my brother with his head in his hands. I asked them what had happened and it turns out my Dad and cheated on my Mum. So another situation to add to the ever growing list. I didn’t really know how to cope with everything and began drinking heavily every day just to ignore what was going on. I became violent and looked for any opportunity, not to start necessarily have a fight but more to just to take a beating as I felt worthless. This routine continued throughout the summer and one day I decided enough was enough.

I remember sat there at the bottom of my bed on a Wednesday afternoon looking at the bedroom floor crying my heart out. I needed to change, I needed to fix myself and get back on track. So I began job hunting, I slowed down on my drinking and got myself a clear head. I began to make slow changes and now here I am…

Who Am I?

My name is Dynamic87, I’m 25 years old and I live in a village in the United Kingdom. I’m an Insurance Consultant who shares a two bedroom flat with a friend. I’m like any normal guy. I enjoy sports, films, music, the usual stuff.

As you can see my life has changed a little since last year, new job, new home. However, I’ve never fully recovered from my break up. Don’t get me wrong I am over my ex girlfriend but my opinion on women has somewhat changed. Its quite funny because my opinion on women is that they can’t be trusted, they’re liars and quite frankly, they’re fucked up in the head. And I’ve seen enough in the past year (not including my experiences) to justify my opinion. Yet for someone reason I still want to go out and meet them? However, my confidence with women is at 0%. I melt when a women talks to me, and I have no idea how to approach the female species. It’s been this way for many months now, and then one day I remembered my best friend telling me about a book that he read years ago called ‘The Game’ so a few weeks I decided to go into a book store and purchase it. Once I started reading it I couldn’t put it down. I was intruiged from the start.

The Journey Begins

Many peoples goal is to be able to pick up women at the drop of a hat, and whilst that is something I would love to be able to do, that’s not the only reason I have decided to enter the world of Pick Up. I have joined this community to not only be able to attract women, but to become a better person and improve all aspects of my life. So this is where my journey begins right now with this blog, which by the way if you have read from the start, I thank you.

So my first act is to write the three key things I want to achieve in life:

1) To be able to attract and indulge in conversation with women
2) To gain confidence in myself and be able to expand my social value
3) To rebuild a strong relationship with my Dad

Summary

As far as I am concerned my journey to becoming a PUA as well as better person starts this very second and I will be blogging my progression, questions etc and hope you will join me along the way for support, to critique or just for something to read. And who knows maybe I could expire someone to get up and make a change? Some of you will probably laugh at me, some of you may respect what I am trying to do for myself, as long as I progress then this blog will help keep me on track and I can look back at my progression aswell.

This blog will appear on more than one website (so don’t be alarmed) and I hope along the way I make many friends and create relationships with other PUAs as well as AFC’s and we can continue this journey of Pick Up together. Feel free to post in my blog or for anyone who has any anonymous questions then email me at [email protected] So until my next blog report, thanks for taking the time to read this…

- Dynamic87 -

Where abouts in the UK are you dude?

Good luck with everything, make sure you do your research and filter the good from the bad in terms of your resources. This place is cool and there's a lot of good stuff to be had if you spend some time here.

I liked your goals, I think there very admirable. Only one I'd tweak is number one.

Welcome to the forum mate, you've made a huge step in identifying your situation and how you want to move on from it, I look forward to reading about your success!

Date: Friday 19th July 2013-07-19

All week I have been doing late shifts at work, so I haven’t been able to socialise at all this week with my friends. I’ve been getting in at 10:30, staying up until early hours in the morning and then waking up around noon. However this morning I decided to wake up early and prepare myself for this weekend (I have a pretty hectic weekend coming up) and not waste any another day away.
I don’t actually finish until 9pm tonight and then I’m heading straight to a beer festival. Basically in my job we do different shift patterns, so one week I can do earlies that is 8:30 – 3 and the following week we do lates 3 – 9. Along with that there’s normally one day a weekend I get off, so I only really get five days off in a month which isn’t ideal. Believe it or not before I took this job as an Insurance Consultant I had a phobia of talking over the telephone to strangers. If a number popped up that I didn’t know I would never answer it, I’d just let it go to voicemail. There were times when my friends would call me up and I still wouldn’t answer the phone. I think that’s the whole reason I decided to go into selling Insurance as our company is all phoned based, I would have no choice but to talk to strangers. I took the job back in November last year, now six months down the line I can be taking up to 40 phone calls a day and selling anywhere up to eight insurance policies a day. Its amazing what you can achieve if you push through the barriers, and this an experience which I hope will help me get over my fear of approaching women.

Making A Few Changes

In my previous blog I had already pointed out what my three ultimate goals were that I wanted to achieve during this journey. I remember watching Styles Annihilation Method last week and towards the end of the seminar he said that he wrote down a list of changes he wanted to invoke in his life. I decided to take this on board so the first thing I did this morning was sit down and write a list of changes that I want to invoke in my life to help me gain a healthier and more social lifestyle. Here is my list below:

Health, Fitness & Personal Hygiene:
- To run/light jog two or three times a week with a circuit of push ups/ pull ups and weights in between days.
- Making sure I get my 2litres of water every day to keep my body hydrated.
- Cut down on junk food and takeaways as well as cutting down on my portion sizes.
- Extend my knowledge of healthy recipes and aim to cook at least one new healthy meal a week.
- Cut down on drinking Cider and substitute for low calorie alcohol such as Rum and Whiskey.
- Do a daily/nightly routine of brushing my teeth, rinse with mouthwash, cleaning my face with water, cleaning my face with baby wipe and moisturise.

Social & Lifestyle
- Create more time for family members.
- Get to know everyone I meet in social circles.
- Amend old relationships and reconnect with distant friends
- Read the local listings each week to find out what’s going on in the surrounding areas and experience new things.

Career
- To find a job in which I am happy with and feel comfortable settling in to.
- To become more confident on the telephone and create a better flow of conversation.
- To re-ignite my passion for script writing and finally begin work on a movie idea I’ve had for the past year.

Pick Up
- To overcome my fear of approaching women and being able to hold an interesting conversation with them.
- Being able to set up dates with interesting and attractive women.
- To become a confident person.
- To up my social value and become someone who people want to get to know.

Making An Approach

Tonight I will be attending the local beer festival where my friends band are playing, unfortunately due to finishing at 9pm I have to miss there set. I’m not to down about that because I have performed with these guys many of times, plus the band after them are suppose to be really good. My aim for tonight is to just approach women and being able to say one line to them. Even if its just a “Hi, how are you doing?” or “Hey, great music tonight, who was your favourite band?” As long as I can say one line and get a response then I will happy, as this will help me getting over my approach anxiety. I have a few openers wrote down in which I do intend to use, but we will see how my confidence levels are once I am actually out in field. I will write down my results tomorrow morning before I have to shoot out.

Summary

So I have wrote my list of goals and change that I want to make in order to help me gain a more social and comforting lifestyle and have things to work towards. I truly believe if you have nothing to work towards or nothing to look forward to then it gives you a negative outlook on life.
I’m just reading through my openers again and can feel the anxiety in me, but I know it’s something that needs to be dealt with as soon as possible and it will be dealt with tonight. So wish me luck out there and fingers crossed I will have some interesting things to tell you about my first in field experience in my next blog.

- Dynamic87 -



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Phenom: Hello mate thanks for taking the time to read my blog and give me advice and feedback, it is truly appreciated. I live a village just outside of a town in Hampshire.

My first goal, reading it back it sounds like I want to attract absolute anyone doesn't it? Haha I didn't mean for it to come across like that, I meant to be able to attract any women who I want to get involved with. Does that sound better? I may have to edit that!


Dice: Thanks for taking the time out of your life to read my blog and I hope you continue to enjoy it, I plan on making my journey a memorable one. As I said before any feedback or advice you can give along the way would be greatly appreciated and welcome.

Saturday 20th July 2013 (Midnight)

As I begin to write I am actually sat here with a grin on my face as if I was the Cheshire Cat from Alice In Wonderland, but its for all the wrong reasons. I’m trying to make sense of today and all I have to say is it was a total contrast of how I expected it to go. I actually left a club about forty minutes ago that I attended with around ten friends, and here I am sat on my sofa and not one text/call too see where I have gone.

Today’s Contrast

Yesterday I woke up with all this positive energy inside of me and I felt like I could take on the world. As you saw I became productive and wrote out a list of changes I wanted to make in my life, and had a game plan for the beer festival that I was attending. All I had to do was get through my shift at work and then the weekend was here for me to start letting my hair down. I was going to make sure that I made this a good weekend as a whole weekend off is a rarity for me.
I’m laughing now because today has been a total contrast. I turned up for work at around 1pm to do my two hours overtime. Normally I struggle at the start of the shift, but as it happens I was on fire. I was working my way through phone calls, and creating great rapport with people over the phone. By the end of my shift I managed to get seven sales, which if you’re in the same job as me you know will be a pretty good achievement. So as 9pm approached all I cared about now was jumping in the cab and getting to the beer festival to start the weekend and approach some attractive women.
I arrived with my brother as he wanted to come along and we made our way into the festival. I exchanged a few pleasantries with some people I knew and headed to the tent to get a beer. My flat mate was in there and told me to try this cider that was 8.4%, it blew my head off. It tasted disgusting but I had just spent four quid on this drink and was never going to waste it so I just took a deep breath and downed the drink as quick as possible. So within five minutes of been there I had downed a pint and was quickly onto my second. I was looking around and there were so many sets that I was thinking about opening. A two set here, a three set here, I felt this could be good. All of a sudden a close friend told me that all my friends were heading to a club instead because our friend was DJ’ing . So before I could even get in the right from of mind I’m in the car heading to the club. As we get there I enter and what do you know, its dead. Absolute fucking dead. Not one girl is in this place. So there went my intention of overcoming my approach anxiety, instead I allowed friends to pursuade me to go to a club full of people that claimed to be MC’s when in reality, they couldn’t even spit the lines they had clearly rehearsed.

Now What?

I’m sat here thinking of today’s events and just writing the whole thing off. I know that tomorrow we are going to be going back to the beer festival and this time it’s my way of doing things. I want to approach set’s, I want to have interesting conversations with females and tomorrow I will overcome my approach anxiety. I feel I have failed myself today despite no fault really of my own. Yeah I could of stayed at the beer festival but the thought of being there by myself made me feel inadequate. So being the sheep that I am I followed the crowd and ended up at a boring scene.
So tomorrow I vow to myself that I will open sets and overcome my approach anxiety. I want to, and quite frankly I need to in order to progress. I can’t keep living like this.

Summary

When people ask me why I want to up my social value tonight has been the perfect scenario. It’s been nearly an hour since I left my group of friends at the club, and I haven’t even had one text or phone call asking where I have disappeared too. I laugh at it now because I find it rather funny but at the same time, it kind of proves I don’t have much social value.
As I said before I’m calling yesterday a write off, its time to get to bed and wake up with the positive attitude I had yesterday morning and use it to my advantage and finally be able to approach an attractive women. I still have me routines on paper and I will play them out tomorrow night, and fingers crossed this time I will have my first in field report.

- Dynamic87 –

Yo dynamic, what happened?