Hey all,

So some of you might have read my sorry ass last post in general or wherever, well since those few days ago I started watching and living by Tyler's Blueprint teachings and today I saw my first DRAMATIC improvement.

Talking to a girl at work, I actually kinda liked her for a while but never acted on it because she was too hot in my old eyes... So today I walked in started shooting the shit as they say, teased her about the clothes she was looking at online and she started to ask me about my holiday and whether my girlfriend enjoyed it.

I corrected her that I went with a buddy and we met lots of cool women yes, she then started asking loads of questions about why I don't have a girlfriend which I think I passed by going down the lines of Mystery's speak "Beautys common and tons of girls are attractive but I need someone to match me intellectually, one with a good outlook etc etc" Then I mentioned she seemed fun and she should hang out with me and some friends.

Looking back on the experience I now see she was validating herself saying "I studied hard at school and got good grades but knew how to have a good time although she hadn't been out for a while" where I kinda skipped over that comment as if it wasnt relevant.

Anyways after a few mins of talking I told het I had to go sort out some food and left. As I was about to leave she got her phone out and started opening and closing it several times, I thought shes prolly got a text or whatever then left, even though I saw the empty wallpaper screen on the phone.

So maybe I missed out here so focused on just having a good chat and not even thinking "wow shes smoking hot" like normal. Was the comments about the girlfriend and being clever and knowing how to party all IOI's and then the phone thing her hinting "Ask for my number"?

Anyways I had a good time and thats one of the best interactions I've had now I look back on it!

So cheers again Nova and Kwoalski... maybe I should hit Bluewater in Kent for a "open 10 people in 10minutes game" at the weekend?

Nice one. Sounds like a good interaction with this girl from work. I think your assumptions about this girl are correct, try not to question them. It's always the case that in reflection, when you have time to think, you see things that were hints of interest and attraction that could have been acted upon in the moment!

I think a big problem, which is ego related, is seeking and looking out for IOIs. This can distract you from your interaction and leave you uncertain when the IOIs are not there. As Tom always says 'Assume it's on'.

As for getting down Bluewater for some day game approaches... do it! A great way to lower yourself into this would be to ask directions or if people know where a certain shop is. The day time is a different environment so you need to adjust to people being approachable.