Last night me, Summer Junky and Pavel decided to hit town for a couple of hours to chew the fat and have a few drinks. For me, it was the first night of just being naturally sociable, friendly and, as K-dog puts it, socially awesome.

Truth be told, town was dead so I met the guys on the Triangle and we headed to Mbargo's.

We got there fairly early, about 8.30 ish, where there were a few students on initiation for football and archaeology (yes really). I went in straight away, asking the guys why they were in forensic suits and the girls why they were dressed as sexy cavegirls. I got chatting to a lass whose parents were Polish so immediately introduced her to Pavel, whilst I chatted to her fit friend who looked like a rabbit caught in headlights. Bless.

We ejected, whereupon Pavel told me I needed to tone myself down a bit. Apparently I've been going in with high energy and it's quickly falling away, hence why girls weren't reacting well to it, so this is something I need to address.

We sat down, chatted a bit, then I went to the bar and bumped into a girl from my course. Now I've always been friendly and very flirty with her, and she was (not to put too fine a point on it) all over me at the bar. Admittedly she was quite drunk but alcohol never makes people do something they don't want to do. Anyway, turns out she has a boyfriend, but one to keep an eye on methinks. I chatted to people at the bar and headed back to the guys, both of whom had been opening in my prolonged absence.

Pavel is chatting to a seated 5-set of pretty girls, who he later informs me are 3rd year vets. I tag myself in with "you guys are vets? You probably know my housemates".
This led to easily my best set of the night, and the one I was sat next to was particularly interested. She was one of those girls who starts out as a 7 but the more you look at her the more hot she gets. By the time I ejected (I lost her attention and group control) she was about a 9. I pussied out of asking her for her number, and I can't remember her name which is doubly annoying.

Sean, meanwhile, opens the 4 hottest girls in the place. Honestly, they were all 9/10s and every guy was drooling at them. Only Sean approaches. Even better, he stays in set talking to the hottest one for a good 15 minutes, and the group seems to be genuinely interested and open to him. That was a good set mate. I know you were disheartened about a few sets last night but that one was a winner. Getting that many smoking hot babes to pay attention to you for 15 minutes is quite an achievement. Plus you were completely fearless all night, not only of approach but also of rejection. You could see the way some of the sets you opened were thinking "fuck...this guy has balls" and there was some attraction there.

My final set of the night was another girl from my course, who I deliberately didn't want to talk to. Why? Pavel found out very quickly, as I chatted to her hot vet friend.

"My god, she was so fucking boring man! Really hot, but she had nothing to say! I can't stand girls like that!"

I did tell you not to bother with her mate

Anyway after that I bailed. A good night overall (although a little short, I was home for 11!). Learning points:

1) Lower my initial energy upon approaching, and engage brain when talking to girls. Honestly, at some points I ran out of things to say. Me! The world's biggest motormouth and master of starting conversation about anything! More concentration I think needed here.

2) Don't be a pussy and actually ask for a number if an interaction has gone well. I could've got 3 numbers last night if I'd grown a pair.

3) Statements of interest. A 2 or 3 girls were into me last night (including the vet), but I didn't qualify their attraction with an SOI. From there I could've escalated the interaction, making a number close more natural.

4) Natural method suits me far better. Rolling up and saying "Hi how are you? I'm Alex" feels far better than the opinion openers which are like forcing a square peg into a round hole. It works, but feels a bit awkward and unnatural.

Also, the biggest thing I realised about last night is how many boring girls there are out there. You know the ones. They're the sort that Pavel talked to with absolutely nothing to them except abundant looks (they're always hot) and academic intellgence but absolutely nothing to say of interest and nothing about them. They always, always have boyfriends. The number of girls just last night who had boyfriends was staggering. Now I don't doubt that some of them probably said it to get us to fuck off but some, I know, were telling the truth (because I know them). In fact, I'm going to start a thread on it. It's pissing me off that much.

Good work guys! Things are progressing nicely for you. Good to see you trying out a more natural style of approach Alex, more efficient isn't it?

Good work Blanca and nice summary. Natural is indeed the way forward. I like you felt far too awkward to adopt the openers as a way of going about this.

I'll certainly be doing natural game from now on. It's not necessarily more efficient, but it's far more fun and feels more right. I'm more comfortable being a natural. Just needs a bit of practice to get my confidence up and I'll be away!

I think it can be more efficient in the sense of being direct. If you think about the amount of going round the houses it can cut out then it's a winner. Most canned openers amount to attempting to show no attraction/going under the radar. It is then you have to make your intentions shown and the longer you leave it, the harder it gets!

My recent day game number close success has proved this to me. It is blatantly obvious to her I find her hot and she is loving this. For exmaple we have exchanged a couple of texts about the hotpants she was wearing when I met her, so much so I called her Hotpants last night, she loves it

Hey Alex you were getting stuck in mate big time, just what i was hoping to see. Fuck not approaching girls because it seems too scary, or too much effort. It's the only way to get good at this so stick at it.
Again, I'll have to apologise for not being very sociable with you guys. I just tend to get a bit anxious in the club environment until i've had a couple of good sets and then i feel more relaxed. I think you guys are all cool and it's not meant as a diss in anyway! xx

any daygame this sunday guys ?

We're doing Saturday aren't we? More girls in town

I'll text you boys anyway. Anyone who wants in, PM me you number or let me know in some way and I'll make sure you're involved.

I'm well up for saturday if anybody is up for it?

Hey Cefai, just to let you know (I realise this might be a bit short notice - apologies!) but we're meeting in Cabot Circus later for an afternoon of day game. Me and Pavel are there at 2, Junky is there at 3.

No worries if you can't make this afternoon, I'll ask the guys about tonight. I'm afraid I'm spoken for - Hallowe'en party (plus 2 girls I wouldn't mind chatting up ) but I'll ask Pavel and Junky to let you know.

Also cheers for that Mystery video, it was very educational. To be honest though it's made me even more determined to be a full natural. There was something about Mystery that suggested a lack of confidence. Something I've always noticed about him too is that everything he says seems almost false and scripted, and I think it's an insecurity thing. Still, can't argue with results!

I'm also going to try the peacocking thing a bit more. Mystery is right in that it makes you stand out and seem more of an alpha male. Combine that with a flawless natural approach and it'll be like fishing with dynamite.