Framejacker's day game dairy

[Framejacker]

Day game dairy

Saturday the 25th

So it's early days, so I have started with simple achievable goals! Today's goal are 5 throw away conversations with randoms

No.1

waiting on the bus to get into work I asked an old lady, if she knew if the buses were alright (it had snowed quite heavy the previous night)

Her: yeah I've just missed one actually
Me: that's good, thought the roads may have been goosed, saying that it feels like it's a lot warmer now.
Her: all the snows starting to turned to slush now
Me: nightmare to walk on isn't it.
Blah blah I let the conversation naturally ebb out, I cause I don't wanna spend all day chatting an old dears up (even though I Defo would, but that says more about me than how good looking she was lol)


After finishing lab I walked into town, first went into oxfam on bold street, there were loads of ppl, two really fit French girls were chatting away to each other what I would given anything to have gotten a grip of them. Anyway I shit out :-( so I left with out speaking to anyone.

No. 2

Went into a vintage shop had a mope round to no avail, I had a look in the basement bit, which was just women's gear, on the way back up the stairs caught the eye of the cashier (an old woman)*

Me: no point me having a look down there was the.*
Her: I don't know love, don't know what you wanted .

Ha Good answer, I thought and on that I left the shop. *Determined to chat to a good looking girl rather than an old woman I went into a Record shop that self second hand CDs. I Went straight up to the first floor and to the back, where a section was really badly lit (a load of spot lights were broken).*

No. 3

There was quite an attractive brunette looking at the CDs in the dark section (which was hipHop/rap), so I rocked up next to her and began looking at the CDs as well.

Me: do you think there trying to save money on the 'lecie bill, not lighting here

Her: *Ha, yeah I know, I can hardly see anything.

Me: yeah am nearly blind as it is anyway

Then I just ejected randomly, initially made up that I had spoken to her, but was a bit disappointed that I ejected so soon.

No. 4

Went back down to the ground floor and spotted a blue haired petite shop assistant, from behind she look attractive (turned out the front was a disappointment). So, I do a quick circle around the shop and approach her from the side.

Me: hey random question,
Her: what?#american accent#*
Me: a question nothing to do with the shop
Her: ermm ok #wry smile#
Me: do you know anywhere decent for food by the scream bar off hope/Hardman street
Her: oh let me think, scream bar is really good, but ermm do you know a place by blah blah. (proceeded to describe somewhere no where near hardman street, sounds like the walkabout in concert sq)
Me: erm not sure you confusing me haha
Her: haha sorry I've only been 6 months
Me: really, where are you from?
Her: Texas*
Me: what brings you to Liverpool
Her: my fella, he's studying here
Me: oh that's cool what he doing*
Her: veterinary
Me: that's cool, well good luck and thanks for the recommendation, laters

No. 5*

Was meeting one of my mates in the fly and loaf for some food, so for the last one, while I was waiting, I started speaking to the barman.

Me: aww it's freezing out there
Barman: yeah horrible isn't it
Me: yeah but I managed to develop ninja-esk skill walking on all that slush and ice over the last week, I am as sure footed as a mountain goat now like.
Barman: haha yeah, I could do with that, *couldn't tell ya how many I went on my arse.

Then i got my drink, said "nice chatting to you, later" went and got a table and wait till me mate, later I went to a house party, didn't get back to mine till about 4:30ish so good day and night overall.

What did I learn

- well once I got going its not as hard I as thought
- I eject far too soon, especially when the girl is attractive, it's like I think to myself "oh shit, I best get off before I fuck it up"
- that most ppl are sound once you get going
- the more I do the easier it gets.

Pointers, advice or observation would be very appreciated.*

[Xylo]

Good effort mate, you're definitely a braver man than I. Can't offer any pointers, perhaps only that you've got some way to go..as i'm sure you're aware, but at least the 1st outing is done. Onward and upward.

[chillem]

Good stuff. Keep doing what ur doing. As you go on your confidence in opening convos by saying anything, whatever you like, whatever comes to you will grow. It will steadily feel more and more natural keeping the vibe going with the more attractive girls and the vibes you create will be more vibey, for want of a better word. I've no doubt that there will be quite a few moments where stuff will just click and you will just know and you will begin to be what you do

[Framejacker]

Thanks lads, yeah defo goin to take a while, but i remember picking up a bass for the first time an it being totally alien to me, even the most simple bass line seemed impossible and it felt like i was never going be able play anything. Then I hit the turning point and started enjoying the challenge. 2 years later, the is nothing I enjoy more than sitting playing, I might not be Cliff Burton or John Entwistle, but i can play most stuff but more importantly I enjoy it. Right now it feels totally alien but I know the more I chip away, the more I'll start enjoying it

Sunday the 27th

Was at a house party till dick docks, so didn't get up till 1:30ish, was in two minds wether to bother but i made myself go.*

Only left the house at about 3ish got into town 4 or so, town was dead. Went into a few shops, spoke to a cashier briefly about how dead it was and whether they preferred it busy, so the shift went quicker or did they prefer an easy time, said didn't matter either it seemed to drag.**I wasn't feelin it at all, so i finished shopping and got something to eat at a boss*Moroccan place on bold street.

Things I learnt

-performance is definitely dependent on attitude/well being
-I love falafel and Moroccan *mint tea
-early bird gets the worm

[Xylo]

yeah mood is a huge factor..I've used some chilling/mood enhancing supplements to decent effect if you're into 'Nootrophics' and the like. Never in the day mind.

[Shahanshah]

If you're out at house parties etc can you not do this in bars etc?

[Framejacker]

Originally Posted by Shahanshah

If you're out at house parties etc can you not do this in bars etc?

I can do this at bars and that but not really going out much atm, for example this house party was instead of going out, I try to organise a night out round the bars but all my friends cried poverty so we all went round to one flat instead, also my set of friends aren't really interested in going round the bars anymore. I'm currently working on expanding my social circle.

I have never really been able to approach girls during the day, I have had success with night game previously, but I really wanna be able to met and connect anywhere. I'm hoping succeeding during everyday situation will help in the long run for nights out as well

[nova]

Originally Posted by Framejacker

-performance is definitely dependent on attitude/well being

Don't use this as an excuse. Your mood would soon change if a hot girl stopped to talk to you and you got her number.

[dan300]

Originally Posted by nova

Don't use this as an excuse. Your mood would soon change if a hot girl stopped to talk to you and you got her number.

Haha yeah getting that first number sure helps

[upinsmoke]

Sunday the 3rd of February

This was the big day for the LIVERPOOL NEWBIE MISSIONS meet, initially there was 5 ppl total set for the meet up. It was me, BlueEyedDevil(B.E.D.) and Xylo plus two other B.E.D. had spoken to from another forum.

I got to the Kazabar Cafa at 10:50 sat down at a couch by the front window and ordered a peppermint tea.

First to arrive was B.E.D., we got chatting, then another 5 minutes or so Xylo appeared.

On first impression i thought "oh fuck! maybe i'm bit out of my league, these look like they could be pro's" as the pair of them are quite athletic and good looking, Xylo is personal trainer and a sports massage therapist and B.E.D. does judo and used to kick-box as well. I'm the odd one out here as I'm neither very fit or healthy (several stone overweight actually), but i have a cheeky grin and wry smile, so i'm not a dead loss.

we chatted for a while, talking about what had gone on and what experience we had and that, this was while we waited for the other two from the other forum to turn up. In the end they had both shit out.

So, it was time to start approaching, outside the shop opposite the cafe we were in, was a women standing in the middle of the street trying to take photo. I decide that i would start. So i got up and was out the door in a flash to catch her, but as I was leaving she was heading back into the shop. I think i mananged to get half way across the road when she was back in the shop behind the counter, i'd lost her, but outside the shop was these two Chinese girls, so i turned to them rather than lose face.

Me: Excuse me, do you have the time please (shit i know)
Chinese girl1: sorry what #chinese accent#
Me: do you know what time it is? #miming a watch on my wrist#
Chinese girl2: #says something in chinese to girl1, she giggles#
Chinese girl1: Oh, 12, 15 to (it was 11:45)
me: oh thanks, so are you too at university here?
Chinese girl2: yes
Chinese girl1: yes we are here for 3, nearly 4 months
Me: and do you like liverpool then
Chinese girl1: yes very much. #giggling again#
Me: well thanks for giving me the time, see you later

I turned round triumphant hoping to see xylo and B.E.D. watching me from the window of the cafe, but they had gone. In my hurry to get to the shop assistant i had totally forgotten about paying for the drinks, so i headed back in the cafe to find them paying at the till, I gave them my share, to make sure they didn't think it was an elaborate ploy to get out of paying.

We then headed off for Oxfam just down the road. Soon as i walked into I approached the counter and asked the lad seeing there if he knew whether they had the "dark tower" by Stephen King. Guy was chatting for ages then brought and another equally inapt female assistant both of which were telling me how clueless they were, but both were really sound for trying.

B.E.D. and Xylo had spilt up and were moving round, I saw Xylo move into the contemporary fiction sat on boss chair then got chatting to a woman who was floating around there, later there was a funky looking pair of leather trousers i was showing him, at once he turned to one of the female shop assistance walking past and ask if they did them in his size totally straight faced.

We floated round for a bit longer then, waited for B.E.D. get his duck. I could see he was really struggling, looked at Xylo and thought maybe a change of scenery was necessary. So, we walk on down to this cheap CD shop, we had a walk round down stairs but there was relatively few people about so headed up stairs, but before we did B.E.D. got his duck and spoke to one of the shop assistants.

We went upstairs, i followed B.E.D. and spoke to an assistant asking about if they had a prog. rock section, Xylo and B.E.D. were off patrolling round. I a relatively nice milf browsing round so I approached and ask if she knew who was singing the song playing over the speakers. She said sorry and laughed and walk around the isle back to her husbands (oh oh). There was an ole lady and ask her if it was Neil Young playing or not, she yeah and then said about him coming back into vogue, we had a nice little convo.

I think we walked round a little more then decided to go get another coffee, we went to cafe nero just by the walkway down into central station. We got talking to the girl serving us, we had order 2 pots of chamomile, we had a little banter, and i got a free pot honey or at least i thought it was, you might not have to pay for it i dont know. Well we sat off talking a little bit more before getting up and moving onto Waterstones, which went straight to the top floor, there was no one there. next floor down I spoke to a woman looking at cooking books, i stood next to here and pick up a book,

Me: the only problem about looking for a cookery book is that i always get up starving afterwards.
Her: yeah, tell me about it haha, but i'm going for lunch after here so its alright.

We chatted for a bit, then parted ways. I think I had read it in an E-Book by Wayne Elise (Juggler), but he say something like, friends and ppl how are familiar speak in statements/observation rather than asking questions, so when you open like this ppl automatically feel more familiar with you. Anyway i found this really helpful, and i have found i get lot more conversation out of ppl when i do.

I moved onto the travel section, again moved up next to a female browser.

Me: I have always wanted to become a travel writer but i don't think getting the 52 bus counts
Her: ha you never know

we had a small conv, i had made up some shit about looking for a present for my dad and how he love Michael Palin, but he had already read all his books. we parted ways and i caught up with Xylo and B.E.D. think we had made another approach each then made a break for liverpool one.

We headed to HMV, I again used the making a statement play again and spend a minute chatting with another female customer, was in the same isle as Xylo when i heard asking a girl shop assistant what all the blue crosses stuck to the DVDs meant, She said something about it meaning 30% off, to which i butted in and said would it be easier to have a sticker with 30% off instead. we walk around for another 10/20 minutes before calling it a day.

Xylo got off to do some shopping, me and B.E.D. had a mini debrief while i got something to eat. After me and B.E.D. parted ways i got speaking to this girl busker about how long she had been playing guitar for and that, it was sound had really nice convo, and by this point it felt effortless which i was chuffed with!

What did I learn
-not everyone you meet of the internet is a serial killer, both Xylo and B.E.D. were sound and what's more they are on the same page wanting to improve them selfs.
-statements and observations promote a more familiar response and are better openers than quickly answered questions
-That I'm more than capable of speaking to strangers, no one explodes or anything if you stay talking past you initial question/statement/observation
-that chinese girls are friendly too (guess NOVA is onto something there)

goals for next week

lets see if i can turn all the inane convo into some flirting/attraction