Hi all, this is not your typical third date or anything. It is the third meeting with a girl I really fancy (which makes me feel like ive lost already!!) next weekend and I need to advice on how to approach it.

Here is the background:

Met her on a night out (she is mate of a mate) and I played pretty solid game and ended up f-closing her. The next morning she is was pretty icy with me (maybe didnt have enough comfort), I left and we didnt exchance numbers, just Facebook. I we exchanged long messages on Facebook and I invited her up to come see me....and didnt get a response!

Anyway it was her and her mates bday a month ago and me and my wing went down to see them and it was a bit awkward with her most of the night then towards the end I saw her and ended up going to back to hers with her mates. She then crashed out (in single bed) and I went to the double bed pissed off!! 30 mins later her mates woke her up and told her I was in other room. She came in and we had a few play fights but nothing more. I ended up f-closing her but the sex just fizzled out after 5 minutes and then we passed out. I hardly spoke with her the next day and left, again, without numbers.

Anyway, next weekend there is another night out where she lives (organised by me as its my leaving do - going to live in USA!), she will be there and I wanted your advice on how to play it. Im thinking open as many sets as possible and get loads of social proof and then kino the hell out of her mid-way through the night, along with qualifying her loads too and she is she starts complying/ giving IOIs.

It is worth noting that she lives 70 miles from me and she is a party animal and a bit of a slut to be honest. She also gets loads of attention on nights out and seems to open more sets than a PUA!....but I fancy the shit out of her (probably because she is very hard to get and has A LOT of choice.)

I'll happily answer any questions you have. Thoughts??

To me it seems like you have the sexual side of things sorted but judging by the day after you don't have the comfort or rapport or call it what you will.

There is something there, she slept with you twice so I don't think you need to bother with IOI's it's on already! You know this!

You need to work on the other stuff, go there have a good time talk to lots of people, don't worry about what she thinks of you because this will stop you being fun, you will be too busy analysing things to be a carefree spontaneous guy. Speak your mind, be confident and high energy then she'll be attracted to this, don't forget the sexual intent though but you seemed to nail that (quite literally) before.

What is it with K posting right before me today?!
He must be stalking me again!

Thanks guys, sound advice.

Tom you were right in saying "don't worry about what she thinks of you because this will stop you being fun, you will be too busy analysing things to be a carefree spontaneous guy."

This is exactly what happened on the second time I was on a night out with her. I was in my head way too much and it ended up making my night a bit shit. Im going to have to try my hardest to be high energy and emotionally unaffected next weekend. Although the latter is easier said than done!!

Social proof - having fun, as yourself, Kow and Tom have said,- I agree it will probably sort itself out...

I would say detach yourself from outcome - but easier said than done haha

To avoid the morning heebeejeebees....?

I'd get David Shades "hot phone sex" asap - and use the basic techniques when you start getting it on again...

Your voice needs to drop Looow - and it should feel like it's resonating/vibrating in your chest
(A few sample lines - using good variety of sight, touch/feel, sound, smell, taste descriptions)

<When kissing / warming up..>
"your lips are so soft....I love kissing you"
"your perfume....is gorgeous"
"you look so relaxed and feminine......"

<Going down / playing around..>
moving back up to say into her ear - or looking straight into her eyes - "I love the way you taste"
"god its feels so good running my hot, wet tongue over your clit baby - your clit is so fucking hard..."

<Banging away for king and country - pulling her hair etc..>"You love it don't you when I fuck you hard...."
holding back at the entrance to her pussy teasing her - "say please" - please "good girl - say please put your hard cock inside me banter.." and soo on

As her sexual state increases - you get progressivly more dirty in your talk from initially being very sensual

<And afterwards - post ciotal bonding - essential!! spend time building that connection and feeling of saftey, contentment - hold her close..>
"I feel so close to you right now.."
"You are so gorgeous - I love wrapping my strong arms around you making you feel safe/ holding you close"
"You are so feminine, you are sooooo gorgeous to me, you turn me so much"

Basically make her feel safe and protected - you dont have to get mushy (love) saftey, comfort, connection - appreciating her femininity and how much she turns you on.... you get the idea

Remember use your (deep resonating voice) voice and other David Shade techniques to really blow her mind, building up in sensuality and extremety as her sexual state increases,

the "post coital bonding" in particular anchors positive feelings, saftey, warmth, protection.... lots of positive re-enforcment.... to you!!

have used this stuff for a while now, real hard nosed, fuck me hard, hit me, choke me types who have a real barrier - have turned into kittens laying in my arms purring away......

Lead her in the bedroom, be the man - and blow her mind with your voice as well as body - no more issues.....

other than keeping her away I reckon

Well hopefully it will get to that stage! She is the type that doesn't like comfort....she is definitely a fuck me hard and then leave type of girl. She is basically like a bloke when it comes to comfort! It will all be about breaking down her defences and getting her to open up to me a little. Think she has been hurt before in the past so maybe tricky

You always come first K

I'm just imagine syn with a deep barry white voice saying "you look so relaxed and feminine......" with wacha wacha guitars in the background Or is that just my warped mind