Hey guys,

I don't usually write field reports but after speaking to my good friend Nova last night he said I should post this.

Anyway, I was out Saturday night with a non-community friend of mine, he is aware of my involvement in the community and he wants girls in his life for himself yet he does not want to make the effort. His energy and enthusiasm (for anything it seems) is non-existant, as an infield accomplice you could say he is a dead-weight. However whereas before my friends attitude would affect the enjoyment of my night it no longer bothers me.

I used to come from the insecure position of feeling I could only 'game' with the safety of numbers around me, i.e. being in the company of community guys who could wing me, give me pep talks, raise my value, give me social proof, rescue me, I'd look to feed off the energy of others etc. If I was out with someone like the friend I've mentioned I would not game, why? As pathetic as it sounds; because I felt his low energy would affect my state, others may percieve him to have low value which made me feel self-concious to be associated with him, I didn't have the support/camaraderie of others to back me up. I now realise these were just excuses and ridiculous excuses at that, a dependant (unattractive) mentality rather than independant (attractive) mentality, not even 'socially adequate' let alone awesome!

Anyhow, I was not going to allow my night to be dictated by my friend, if he wanted to be a boring, miserable sod then that's up to him but I wasn't going to participate in that so I left him to it and went off chatting to others in the venue. Fuck it! He's a 26 year old man he does not need me to wet-nurse him in a bar for godsake!

Recently i've been flirting with opening direct but this time I decided to grow a pair and just open directly each time I found a girl attractive. In order for the opener to come across as sincere and as authentic as my intent I can only open girls in this way that I find genuinely attractive and lately I've discovered that honesty and authenticity is by far the best way to go. My opener was simply;

'Hi I noticed you from over there (point to where i'd come from) and I just wanted to say I think you look absolutely stunning and I had to come over and meet you, my name is.....' (Handshake)

From there i'd just trust myself wing it and go into vibing, banter no inauthentic lines or routines.

This worked beautifully, no blow-outs whatsoever.

One girl even said 'Oh my god, that's just made my night' some dude soon marches over and tries to whisk her away. I remain unaffected by this and just turn to him and say 'Hey, what's up, my names Stu' and shake his hand. He says they're off to get food, 20mins later lo and behold she turns up again at the bar alone for more!

Best one of the night, approach this girl with a couple of orbiters around her, a third soon joins as does my friend who just stands awkwardly nearby. I shut the guys straight-out, communicate a strong and dominant frame I think they're alittle taken aback by my brazen attitude they just stand and gawp becoming spectators. She leaps at me but to make sure of the situation I say 'So which one of you lot is this girls boyfriend?' nobody owns up, she whispers to me 'Its ok I just work with them'. Bingo!

Sorry long post but just to summarise two things i've recently learnt (and hope others can to), taken on board and integrated into my game.

Self-validation

Nobody is the boss of you. Don't look to others for validation and don't rely on other people to be an asset to your game. To do this authentically it has to come within yourself, trust and believe in yourself, you are the key to your own success, nobody else. Do, say and act however you wish for your own amusement/enjoyment.

Don't be concerned about the company you keep. Tyler Durden speaks about this in the blue-print. The friend I mentioned is a terrible wing-man but he's a good friend, why should I allow other people to judge me by their percieved value of my friends? It's bullshit, I am my own person, I am not my friends. Besides percieved value is only a perception, it's not necessarily the reality. Anyone who does judge you purely by the company you keep probably lives an inauthentic lifestyle and is a disillusioned, poorly 'socially conditioned' cretin.

Direct Game

For me it's more authentic as I am just being honest and I feel more comfortable and at ease with myself behaving in this way. It's also much more efficient to your game as you don't need to remember lines or routines, you lay down how it is from the outset without wasting any time and even if you do get rejected women are more likely to respect/admire you for your effort. What's the point in over complicating a method from A to B when there is a much more direct route?

Enough of my ramblings for one day.

Nicely written report. You needed to be a bit more directness in your game you can open and hold a conversation but now I think it's all coming together I see good things happening!

Nice work Hustler. I love the way you could just be your own person and not let the deadweight of your friend drag you down. YOU decide if your gonna have a good time. Nice!

Directness is something that is creeping into my reality slowly, I've only used it in one day time situation recently, as a result I see it's value in every situation and intend to start experimenting more and more with this type of honesty. Point A-B may well be easier for me to cover as a result.

Cheers guys, this forum and hanging out with you guys has really opened my eyes and shifted my perspectives. I know it's a cliche within the community but I think I'm starting to 'see the matrix' and it feels quite empowering.

Wicked field report dude! What happened with the girl who was "just worked with those guys"? Sounds like the force was with you!

Also, if the offer to come up to Gloucester this week is still standing, I could come down either Wednesday or Friday evening? I feel like a good thrash, I haven't been gaming enough recently

Wonderful report dude...Really motivating :-)

Ash.

Hell yeah!

Nice going man, but I just have to also share a bit of what happened to me today at a mall in Croydon.

Trying the Direct Approach method, its going onto 6:00PM and its a Thursday night so the stores open a bit later, I head into the comestic section of a popular department store in the mall and find all the really hot HB ranging form say 6-8 are there..trying on make-up and the works, plus they where bumping some hip-hop so I decided to step over...

Now I swear to you in my head all the other guys are combing the mall but trust me all the women are here laughing chatting with friends trying on make-up and not a man in sight.
Anyhow I step to this cutey around 5ft 3" whose a customer wearing black tights and a very short knitted shirt and her ass is just so prounced over her small fitted top it almost a sin no one was talking to her.."So step over ask her where Zara is located....(its in plain view) but here my accent gives me a bit of relief as she hears me ask for directions and then look to stack but....funny what do you could happen next...

She leans in give me directions and with a bit of a smirk I ask her "How many languages do you speak..? She replies."only one for now, which is English" I reply " detect an accent are you sure you're British..?"
She then says "Of course I am...her pearly whites perk up as I then now state..."You know I just had to come over and say hi because I think you're the cutest girl in the entire make up section..." I await repsonse...she then looks at me...steps back and proceeds to say "ooooh well thank you....but are you sure..you mean me...?? I see her taking steps back.

In my mind (I sometimes say why cant girls/women in London accept a compliment) her body language at this pointy read panic..as she stated she had to go..Fine she left and then with my opinion opener I then proceeded to talk to a HB 8 (Russian chick) fine as hell who stepped up to pay for something and was waiting to be served..The Russian chick gave me such goof IOI to my opener and following me building comfort and raising kino she definately allowed me to frame her. Took her hand and measured our index fingers...told her her french manicure could have been done better, (playful enough neg) but I think I need work on my push/push routine...

I asked her to come with me into JD sports to help me pick out a decent pair of sneaks, put out my arm she held onto to it...(in my mind GAME ON)...we enter the store ppl are literally looking the chick up and down on dude walked into a display and hit down a rack of shirts, we playfully said what we liked (her english wasn't 100% guys) lets say 40-45% at best...but handed her my blackberry and told her put in her digits...I thought to move to next phase to comfort building how could I do that with her not understanding english 100%...
But what I beat myself up about was should I have gone in for the kiss close...because we ending up before me leaving playing a bit of thumb-war, but being direct did work after my initial approach, I am wondering next time if i should just go str8 direct or go in STEALTH......?

Nice post bro. I have friends exactly like that so I can totally relate to what you're saying. We'll have to go sarging again sumtime in Cheltenham. Wing each other and hopefully I can get rid of a bit of AA!!