Location: inner london

Last night was one of those times when my reality went ‘pop’ a little bit. Fun fun night. One of 3 day 2s in two days - getting back to how it was up north people! Also, I don't usually post LR, but this seemed important to me somehow.

Out with a visiting friend and a mLTR who was visiting me from another city 1 week ago. To be fun, I sometimes open sets / be social with her, and we have a cool time.

Went to a busy bar near warren street, people were waiting outside. Immediately I spot 2 girls, so I get some drinks for us, and stand next to them. I open them with ‘Hello’, and introduce people. One Korean girl (Yan, not real name) is cute but quiet – she doesn’t say much. We all socialise for a while.

Next drink, and there are two gorgeous Japanese girls at the bar. I open direct ish, and mention that I’ll speak to them outside and introduce them. They surprise me by waiting around behind me until I got my drink, then followed me (perhaps they saw my social proof outside?...). They were a bit tentative, but I lead and introduced them. Again, we all socialise. I spend most of the time with one of the very cute Japanese girls, and my mLTR. Because she is my mLTR, we are quite affectionate sometimes. It should be pretty obvious to everyone that we are together. Actually, I try to set my friend up with the Japanese girl later, and give him some advice (he is a total AFC, a cool guy though; he uses no kino at all, and gets stuck in logic mode more than me! The fucker then gets too drunk/stoned later one, and tries to cockblock my with for my mLTR. Lame!! He apologises in the morning, back on track).

After about 2 hours at this bar we go to leave – I was so uninspired with the Yan (cute as she was) that I wasn’t bothered with the close at all. I barely interacted with her at all. Anyways, my mLTR whispers (‘number!’) and we exchange numbers.

The next day, to make a fun game, me and the mLTR decide to send a ridiculous text to Yan.

I go in with:

“last night I was looking at the stars, but your smile is brighter than them all. x I’m a cheesey guy! X Anthony”

Now, isn’t that the lamest text you could imagine?!

I expect a flake, but she texts back with “haha, thank you, but is Anthony your family name?”

Me and mLTR laugh about what a bland text that was; maybe she spent hours thinking of what to say! Jesus, is that all she’s got!!? Anthony my family name?!!?

Anways, I put the phone away and continue with a line of cheesey as fuck texts. So fucking cheesy, but I want to see where it goes. The set is dead anyway – no interaction at all. And she seemed a bit shy. I knew from experience that shy Korean girls are a waste of time (one I previously k-closed, at age 23, I was the first she ever had kissed – she freaked out). She tends to put little questions at the end of her texts. I sometimes reply, sometimes don’t. My replying time is irregular. I add her on facebook, and the mLTR uploads pictures of the night we met. I say I’d like to take her out, but that I’m busy. I suggest a day and a time. She agrees.

I completely expect a flake (and completely understand why), but still we meet, and as always I keep in mind kino and being sexual (not natural for me a number of months ago). Light touching, playful touching, talking of sexual topics. I take her to a quiet ish acoustic night. I introduce her to a guitarist, who I met earlier. We talk, escalate, now holding hands, holding her leg, etc etc. We have two drinks. She is here for a few months only. We talk. Escalation continues. I play a game with her and open a set opposite us just for fun. I go back – this is outside her reality. It’s very much part of mine. I knock a drink over – school-boy error on a date, but it in no way affects my frame. I finish what I was saying then go to the bar. The barman gives me a cloth and says in an unfriendly way that all customers should clean it themselves. I smile, explain I am on a date, and he turns – later he scrubs the floor for me. Cheers man! I shake the man’s hand. When at the bar, a cute girl is also getting a drink. I can’t resist opening her. When I explain the situation, her face lights up. I sense immediate attraction – social proof anyone?
Yan gets another drink at the bar, while there, a really hot girl sits near to me. I open with ‘hey’ (in state), and talk about the date, and her – social proof anyone?. I sense immediate attraction. A guy comes over with some drinks and sits next to her. Shit, I don’t want to ruin a date!! I whisper/ask her about him, and she insists ‘just friends’. Seems like an AFC stuck in friend zone. I talk to him, and we find common interests, we exchange contact details. Importantly I also exchange contact into with the girl too…. But then, because there was so little game, and it was obvious I was with someone else, nothing could/should happen, right ?

Seconds later, Yan is back, and I introduce her. I cut this off a bit, and next we make out a few times, with kino and comfort.

Bar is closing. Now, is it too early to bounce to my place?! Screw it! “OK, we’re going here, 10 minutes on the bus”. Then I reassure her, we’ll get a drink, look at some photos, then I can walk her to her bus (key word here being can). On the way, we kiss, and a guy snaps a photograph of us (with flash!). She is shocked. Kind of an invasion of privacy. I stop him, and speak to him. This could be a confrontation, but I make it not so. He assures me it was a mistake. I smile, and ask him to take some more pictures of us. He takes loads, might enter some into a competition, and agreed to email them to us. Later than night I receive his email. Thanks man!

Back at my place we fully close. It takes time, because she has very very little sexual experience. Her first ever blowjob! Shit! I promise to myself not to fuck her around.

Thoughts/feedback welcome. Some of you might think I’m a fucker for the activities above. If so, explain why!

My thinking is this:
-social proof is toxic stuff
-you can f-close quicker than you think.
-I used a terrible set of texts, and we still met up.
-When you get better at this you start to internalise much of it. With that power comes responsibility. The battle within continues!
-Am I a f*cker!?...


Anthony

Awesome stuff, Anthony you are a legend!

Good Anthony,
If I open a set and have a good interaction in the club, I wonder what would happen, whilst we're holding hands or arm and arm, I was to open other sets and introduce each other? You reckon my results would sky rocket, although she may run away.......I'll try it tonight. No reason why I can't use my talent of speaking to random strangers to more effect

Sapmi, I do that all the time to good effect. It's called social proof. (non-pu term: you are being friendly and awesome).

Some people think that 80% of attraction is preselection. Go and do it.

Mate thats awesome. I remember the first night i met you in your suit. WOW have you just taken an idea and run with it like hell. Good on you man, very happy for where you have some from and have ended up. Can't wait to get to that stage.

Hope to see you soon my friend.

Retro

If you promised her you would be an item then you would be a right f**ker but since she's not here for long and I guess you didn't promise to get married to her or anything then you're not a f**ker (well you are but in a good way!)
I don't think she'll expect anything serious if she's leaving and she'll have an awesome story to tell about how she got seduced by a charming english man

I thought you said you were uncomfortable with all this?! Sounds like you're on fire. Keep going!!