Originally Posted by kowalski

First off, I agree with everything daleinthedark said in his response.




Attack! Attack! Attack!

If someone has gone as far as trying to get the word out to you that you should hit on them, you should hit on them. She probably thinks that she has already given you a tonne of signals that you should hit on her and you haven't.

Last time this happened to me - Was English winter in my friend's car, she went into her friend's house then they both came out and talked on the step. As we drove home my friend told me that the other girl wanted to talk on the step so she could see me through the car window because she thought I was cute. I got in the shower, had a shave, got dressed nice and went straight back round uninvited and knocked on her door. All went well.

Not this...



Here is the meaning of that eye contact - (Excepting the very first moment and unless you are obviously occupied with something that you can't just stop doing) every moment when you are making 'meaningful eye contact' with a girl you aren't already hitting on is a moment where you are losing value in her eyes. Because she'll start to think that you lack confidence in yourself.

She liked you before because she thought you were cute and just imagined a bunch of other positive qualities on top of that, like that you are confident and witty and intelligent, etc, etc. But with your stalling she maybe started to question whether you had those other qualities and when you eventually approached her you needed to sparkle because she'd already washed some of the shine off of her imagined you.



I'd advise you set off on a long journey of growth.



Specifically relating to this, don't sweat it. There's no failure here. You had a bland everyday chat to another person in your extended social circle for a few minutes. That is all. Next time I saw her I'd just hit on her, I'd go up to her, give her a kiss on the cheek, put my hand on her waist and start talking to her.

Smoothing awkward failure out is for when you kiss her younger, prettier sister or insult her boring, overbearing, best friend or pass out in her bathroom in a pool of your own vomit on her birthday. Once, I did all those things in a day. It was a great day.


Peace,

kowalski