if you're winging with guys who can't even open a girl without lying, and you encourage it, I see the problem. I will say though, half of the guys that discredit routines are walking over and saying "I thought you were cute and had to come over" like that's not a pre written opener. At least its direct though.

Work on your confidence and try to primarily be direct and 75% natural at least, as your default setting.

Routines are good, but it's like wearing a mask that is a lot better looking than you are. Eventually the mask comes off and you look like a smacked arse. Why not go for congruency and naturalism (lol, not nudity, unless you got lucky) right from the get go? Things improve. I won't force direct on you because indirect also can be very good.