The difference is that I can understand where he's coming from. This is how each situation was delivered to me:

1.
me: "I like the progress I've made. I'm pretty proud of myself"
Stein: "Fuck off. You've made none."

2.
me: "Go to this forum, the advice is better"
Stein: "Wow. Childish. Grow the fuck up. Thought you said you'd changed?"

Even though Stein understood me wrong, he still made a valid point with it and I could easily understand how he came to that, and it was because of the way I worded it - making me look bitter. You just called me names and have since tried to justify by reframing...