All,
I had an
LMR situation yesterday that I managed to defuse and thought I would share.
As a minimal context, I meant the girl on Tinder, she’s 32 and more introverted and proper. We went for a drink at the Shard a week day a while ago. It was a bit awkward so I thought we wouldn’t repeat. Yet she messaged me the following day thanking me for the drink. As she seemed shy and slow, I made her wait a bit. Two weeks later, I asked her out for a cup of tea and a walk a Sunday late afternoon, we discussed a few things, among which, her that she likes to cook. Two weeks later, i.e. yesterday, I suggest that she come to my place to cook, and she did.
Things were going smoothly; some wine and some making out. When we moved the the bedroom; the much dreaded
LMR appeared, even though she clearly wanted things to go through.
I followed lines that I had seen in Mystery’s seminars: get away, make the girl feel rejected, she’ll come back; repeat. While it worked out in the end, it took something like 5 loops of this routine (which weren’t all super smooth, I was running out of things to say), and close to 2.5 hours.
Two elements that I would like to mention are:
1. she acted as though she had to show resistance to establish value or prove something (lines like ‘you won’t get what you want’); and
2. she said things like ‘you only want a one night stand’ and ‘I think you’re only having me over to give me an orgasm.’
While Mystery’s technique worked for me, I’m curious to hear from people who’ve experienced this more on the following:
1. What’s point 1. about? Rationally, we’re in a win-win or lose-lose situation. What’s the girl’s mental process?
2. For the first statement of point 2. above, I used a Mystery line ‘it’s fine, we don’t have to, I’m not going anywhere, blah blah.’ The part on the orgasm took me aback, however; I was stuck and this slowed the process down. Any suggestions for that one?
3. What other routines out there should I add to my game?
4. Finally, does anyone have rules to decide when they’ve tried long enough and it’s time to cut short your losses? I was close to that; while I was sure she didn’t want to leave, I felt it would just take too much time and effort.
Thanks,
drphil