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Originally Posted by markuk
So my question to Broadswords is when you jerk one out, who do you fantasize about?
This is not a loaded question and I'll explain why. I was a virgin for a long time. I wouldn't say I was particularly depressed, I had friends and did shit.
However when I got horny I just watched porn. I never really felt horny for 'normal' girls I got my kicks through porn.
I'm not saying porn is evil and that I don't watch some occasionally now, however it's rare I do. I look at women I meet and feel horny about them.
That drives me to meet women more women. It has probably been one of the biggest motivators for me.
This sounds reactive not proactive. You're clearly doing proative things, like speed dating. To me speed-dating is no more contrived that doing an 'approach' on a hottie on the street. So why not try that as well occasionally, I've found that liberating from an anxiety standpoint & I've met some girls this way, although not had sex with any (but that's not the point).
Maybe speed dating is more accepted on this forum because it's not PUA related, dunno.
I just think this could be a case not not knowing what you're missing out on.
It's a catch-22 as how do you know what you're missing out on until you've had it of course.
Anyway just my two pence worth. |
Jerking off varies from porn, to women I know who are unavailable, or women I've known in the past. I do approach women at times, other times I can also chicken out. This is usually when I'm out on the piss at a weekend or at Asda during the week, thats generally the only times I'm out other than work. Being in bed at around 10pm & being up at 05:30 doesn't give me much time for anyting else during the week.
i probably don't know what I'm missing out on, and the whole thing on this post has exploded probably because of my response of "I don't care" and the fact I've had no "results" with women since I came on here. A lot has changed with me in the last year and I've realised a lot of things, its just none of them have been in the way of women, I'm thankful for all the stuff I've realised in that time.
Yes, i do need to do more, i agree. But I'm not going to kill myself doing it. if folk don't like what I post on here, tough, don't read the thread. if Jaz wants to ban me, fine. I'm going to carry on living and enjoying life & posting stuff on here as and when I feel relevant.