Okay so you guys are being all intellectual and shit.

Let me lower the tone.

So I know what's it's like to not have sex in a long time and how I dealt with that. I'm not sure some of you other guys could relate to that.
Yea I'm relating to Broadsword bitches.

So my question to Broadswords is when you jerk one out, who do you fantasize about?

This is not a loaded question and I'll explain why. I was a virgin for a long time. I wouldn't say I was particularly depressed, I had friends and did shit.
However when I got horny I just watched porn. I never really felt horny for 'normal' girls I got my kicks through porn.

I'm not saying porn is evil and that I don't watch some occasionally now, however it's rare I do. I look at women I meet and feel horny about them.
That drives me to meet women more women. It has probably been one of the biggest motivators for me.

This sounds reactive not proactive. You're clearly doing proative things, like speed dating. To me speed-dating is no more contrived that doing an 'approach' on a hottie on the street. So why not try that as well occasionally, I've found that liberating from an anxiety standpoint & I've met some girls this way, although not had sex with any (but that's not the point).
Maybe speed dating is more accepted on this forum because it's not PUA related, dunno.


I just think this could be a case not not knowing what you're missing out on.
It's a catch-22 as how do you know what you're missing out on until you've had it of course.

Anyway just my two pence worth.