Hi Merauder,

I sense something, that you are ok, BUTthere is a spanner jammed in your works. I can't say what that spanner is, and what it is doesn't matter, I mean ut doesn't matter to identify it, all that matters is that you get past it,

Think of it like this: you know whae you see a wpman and she is just so fit and you have the massive hots for her and you want to just sit her there infront of you so youcan have a really good look (not a sneaky look, but a real eyeful as though time had frozen and she wasn't even aware that you were looking, and you can put her in any position you like which turns you on, and I mean with her colthes on for a start, you know, her sexy legs in those jeans, the creases, mmmm, oh and her thighs, her bare thighs, her innner thigjs, mmmm, and you touching and licking them, mmmm, and well, you get the idea, well that is what she likes, that is what she wants.....she wants that, too! She would be quite happy with oral sex, quite happy (once you have her confidence in you0 for you to use a vibrator up her). You know you want to do that, you know that you can do that (your performance is guaranteed, you don't have to have intercourse,(intercourse is more difficylt to do with the same satisfaction because, well, it is more tricky in several ways. So juat massive foreplay for a start is enough, which she will but where is that going toe just as happy with, and you know that you fingers and tongue will always work very well.

Sp knowing that, knowing that you can do that and do that to her given the chance, and that is what she wants (if she is up for it) then get on with it my friend, some will say no and some will say ok....the start of approaching will be crap and you will feel like crap, but you try and improve each time by thinking how you could have done it better, like maybe letting her see you first so that she has had chance to decide about you, and so if she wants to then she will be more warm to your advance than if taken by complete surprise and on the spot.........you just keep thinking 'how can I do it better next time'. This is why people come on this forum because they sort of see it as a gym where they can improve their game, BUT they still get out there and get on with it, and that is what you need to do, get out there and get on with it BUT always afterwards try and think how you can improve it, how it went wrong, what you could have done better, and in this you sometimes need some help from mates like us, you saying, oh I blah, blah, blah and she blew me out and was horrible the way she looked at me, and we say ' but if you wasn't rude and didn't make her deel so on the spot that she had to do that as a default position and now she feels shit because she had to handle a sexual situation so uncooly, then if you wans;t that then it is her fault not yours rgat she couldn't handle being asked and so reacted that way, and you put it to us on the forum and we all tell you what we think, and so you can then hekp work things out better how you will be better next time. BUT you have to get out there........no one can do that for you. YOU have to do this thing your self.

Here? well it is tips and advice, but nothing that can transform you, there isn't some exam you can take and then go out into the world and be able to do it.

Here's something to think about or even discuss: it is the idea that if you go for someone you don't fancy then you are going to be unbothered if you get blown out, but it you really fancy her then you are going to feel it. Well, this happen to all of us when we miss the ones we really really fancy. but if you pull someone you don't fancy then maybe you feel you have power and control because you don't care, but where is that going to get you, and her? It think it is better to go for what you really fancy and not bother with anything less. Have a think about what it is you really fancy. What is it you really like? Skinny ;egs but not muscley, just fleshy and soft? square shoulders or rounded shoulders? What I am saying is that you should carefully consider what it is that gets you going, WHAT IS YOUR TYPE? Be totally honest with yourself, make a study of it. Whenever you see a woman who you just really would like to smell and lick and touch, what is it that is doing it for you. These are the women you should try for. Don't bother with the others, it isn't fair on them, too, to be involved with someone who isn't turned on by them. This is why it doesn't matter if you are rejected because all it means is that you are not their type. Well, that is fair enough. 99% of women, maybe more, are not my type, so if a woman was to approach me that the odds are that I will say no thanks (ie you are not my type). She would be disappointed about it, but that is how it is, that's life. Even if you were her type then there are many things which could blow the deal, that's life in all its complexities. So it is a numbers game to a large extent.you ask a hundred and one will be up for getting to know you better. So what you have to do is get out there and get asking, knowing that it will likely not happen, and knowing that then you are not bothered, but you try to improve your odds like getting it down to one in ten by going over it afterwards and thinking how you could do it better and improve your chances, and tyhis is where this site comes in.....it is just mates all talking about a fantastic subject which holds much interest for them....beautiful women. Come on mate, get yourself aout there and screw up and then come back on here and say how it went wrond and we can all chat it out and then next time you will have improved your game, and then judt keep doing that. That is what we are at this site for, to improve our game. BUT this in not where you can learn your skill, this is just somewhere you can help to improve it.

I think you are ok, and I reckon you will do well, but you need to get out there and take the pain of the early stages of the learning curve. Come on, mate, get out there, see a woamn you fancy and then ask her and then come back here and say exactly what happened, THEN you can be helped.