As someone who likes the overall idea of day game more than night/bar game (even though I do love going out socialising) I decided it was time I made a concerted and consistent effort to make a proper go of it! I have dabbled here and there, whether it be circumstantial or forcing myself, but now I want to make it so ingrained that it becomes part of my reality. Not only do I like day game for its unpredictable nature, i.e. girls don’t expect you to approach them, but I have a real thing for orientals girls, and when do you see a bar full of them? They are plentiful on the streets of Manchester so this is the forum to chat to them. Getting this skill refined would also open my horizons dramatically as I see more girls I like on the streets than in bars.
So, here it is My First Day Game thread…

Sunday 11th Oct
Sat at home not doing a lot and thought ‘not been out in the day to chat to girls for a while, let’s have a bash!’ So dived on the bus into town, wandered the streets for a bit mulling over approaching and didn’t really take any action, carried on and had a look round the shops then headed in Aldi to see what cheap German beers they had (check out the Spaten, a quality Munich Pilsner!). I then spotted a really hot oriental girl. She was looking at the yoghurts and smoothies with her friend. I dilly dally a tad and think of what to say, ‘should I be direct, should I just ask her something situational about food?’. Her friend moves away from the scene and I decide to go in. I grab her attention and then after a fairly intense pause (thinking of what to say) I tell her I saw her examining the yoghurts and want to know her favourite flavour as I want to get into yoghurts. She then walks me over to the yoghurt section and show me her favourites. She liked strawberry, I decided I liked cherry. Her friend then appears to see what’s going on and I say hi to her.

Unfortunately I let myself run out of things to say and after talking a little more about yoghurts we parted company. It was a bit tense on my part so didn’t let myself flow with situation/conversation and hence the will to eject after my initial ideas ran out of steam.

Thurs 16th Oct
Left work early to head to town before Improv. Decided I would get some new jeans and while at it see if I could see any girls I’d like to approach. Wandered down from Piccadilly station and my head started to fill up with junk… I was thinking too much about if I should open directly or just ask someone for directions etc.! I managed to calm myself down a bit as I knew getting flustered would get me nowhere.

Anyway, I headed into the Arndale and decided to go into the Apple shop as I needed to get myself a new iPod. Great move on my part! There were 2 oriental girls in different parts of the shop and I walked over to one straight away and asked her what her favourite colour iPod is. She responded telling me she liked the orange one. We then chatted a bit about my favourite worst colours and how iPods used to just be white… blah blah blah. I felt ok, more relaxed than the Aldi approach, I let myself flow more. I then transitioned the conversation and asked her where she was from. She told me Taiwan, I asked her about how different it was from Manchester etc, but then thought too much and stopped myself talking and the flow was gone. She walked off slowly and I bailed from the scene.

I think I sometimes worry too much that I shouldn’t ask them ‘interview’ type questions as it may be deemed boring. It’s something that has been recently conditioned into my mind from the writings of Neil Strauss who condemns this type of question. I have tended to agree to a large extent, but now I am thinking - well if the situation is suited to this question, why the f*ck not. It’s about being authentic isn’t it?

I need to allow myself to take these conversations further and push my social boundaries. I am not used to this, my reality needs to take this onboard from now on.

Thanks for reading!