Listen man you've taken a good pummelling but it doesn't mean we don't like you. It's just our initiation test. I for one am hoping you come through this. I think you'd be a good addition to the forum.

The positives to take out of this are, in terms of chatting girls, if there's something you are passionate about, express it and never compromise yourself for anyone, male or female in doing that. Don't relate for the sake of relating.

But at the same time if a girl brings something up that you are interested in, even if it is x-factor, then get into that bubble and find out why she likes that. therein lies a connection. But it's not a necessity in making a connection with a girl. That can happen even when you don't speak the same language.