I had a convo with a woman in the laundrette today. Started off about the weather and ended up trading life stories, hopes, dreams, fears, plans, the lot for 1/2 hour (the time the driers take).

Initially you're building trust through conveying your personality with tit bits of information, then backing off for a while and letting the other person open up and contribute. Back and forth it goes. Pretty much 50/50 I reckon. It's like a dance.

We both kept relating each others stories to ourselves and realised through that there was some commonality.