Thanks for the replies everyone.
The distinction between stuff you actually want to do etc seems obvious in hindsight.
I also like the idea of a sliding scale as you move from committed to motivation taking over.
When I first started looking into this stuff my motivations had a high degree of clarity.
Initially it was driven by basic drivers...to avoid long, Gobi desert style female droughts.
But also not wanting to feel intimidated by anyone in any situation.
It seems silly to think of being nervous about talking to beautiful women in work situations now, but that is how it was!
I think it`s starting to evolve to a good place now though, more about having more fun in all areas of life and having more choice with women.
Thanks again for your thoughts.