For pickup I've definitely had to ignore how I'm feeling and just rely on my commitment to get out of the house and have a go. It's a similar thing for the gym. I know once I'm out I'll be okay and later I'll feel a whole lot better I didn't listen to my feelings and just went regardless.

But now the motivation is starting to come, especially for pickup. I'm starting to enjoy the experience more and the challenge. They say having the right challenges is what keeps you motivated. So you need to keep setting the bar a little bit higher each time you make progress.

I'm always on, in that if there's a cute girl near me I'll talk to her without thinking about it first. It's developing into a habit.

Motivation could be a like confidence in that you can only get it by taking the action first. If you wait for it you might be waiting a long time.

Once it's a habit you don't need motivation or commitment you just take action automatically.

Good thread.