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Originally Posted by top-hat
Date: 18th November 2013
After taking a break, on sunday we were raring to go. After hearing your guys' advice. I attempted to change it up. I had good conversation with 3 or 4 people. And went for my first number close since getting back into this. The swede whom I was chatting with replied I'm not sure how my boyfriend would feel about that. This was the start of the boyfriends...
Went up to a load more and I stopped them just kept getting told they had a boyfriend.
Date: 19th November 2013
This day was my worst day out. Went out to Westfields, and nothing was stopping. Except a Hungarian and a couple of Polish girls whom I had good conversation with. I kept getting into my head and getting frustrated, at one point I had an argument with my wing about my excuses.
Points to take and ways to improve:
I can feel it coming, the results I'm looking for.
Move on from the bad day.
Treat it like a job interview, put 100% even after every failure.
Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance.
Work on observational statements.
Calm down and slow down.
Today I've got a third date from the from a couple of weeks ago. Maybe she can calm me down.
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If they tell you they have a boyfriend, don't fret just say something like "That's ok, I don't mind if you have a boyfriend" or "It's ok, bring him with you" or "That's cool, personally I've never had a boyfriend" - just try pushing it a bit to see whether they actually do have a boyfriend.
The only thing I notice from your posts is that (maybe your writing style) but this reminds me of looking at somebody running a project, a tad robotic. Such as the highlighted point - this isn't a job interview, its social interactions in real life.
Same with all the approaching, I agree with Stein & Barney's comments. Everyone's different but I wouldn't purely approach 10 different people just for the sake of it. I think there's a difference talking to people you want & don't want to; your heart won't fully be into it & it will show in your interaction with the people your not bothered about. I'd swap 1 awesome 15 minute interaction for 10 pretty much nothing one's any day.