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Thumbs down Devonian Details Dat Dialogue - 18-09-2013, 04:47 AM

Alright so this is my first field report... I'm also slightly drunk but I presumed I'd forget all this in the morning so...

Me and 3 of my housemates head to a party on main campus, the bar/club isn't particularly busy but I try to inspire my comrades.

Oh god, why is it so hard to remember what I said to everyone? I approached around 4 girls with lines as follows:

"I found you! What do I win?" (some girls were wearing where's wally attire)

"I love this song!" (laugh, after dancing over to them, begin to sing along with the song)

"Come over here! The best dancers are over here."

This gained some mixed responses. Mostly, I followed this up by asking their names but then I did this weird thing where I held my hand out to shake. One of my housemate's pointed out that I did this with the majority of the girls I opened and said that it was way too formal. I definitely agree with him but I'm not sure what to replace it with or how to follow on after introductions. I tended to just dance with them after this and then move on since I wasn't sure what to do next.

Frustrated with this repetition, I started following up this intro with standard uni questions... "what are you studying?", "are you a fresher?" and looking for things we can relate on but one girl I thought I was making progress with suddenly decided to leave after her friend said something.

I then felt confident enough to try something different. I approached a 6/10 and attempted to take her hand and twirl her around so she was facing me but it all ended up in an awkward mess and even though she looked amused and blushed a little, I wasn't confident enough to pursue further conversation.

Later in the night, I tried approaching some good 7 or 8/10s who were dancing on a raised platform in the dancefloor. One of my favourite songs came on so I went towards her... but then.

"Hey, do you think she's cute?"

What I presume is an AMOG started talking to me.

"Uhh..."

"Go tell her she's pretty!" (he signals to one of the girls to the left of him)

"I don't really. I like the one opposite you. haha" (big mistake)

"Well tell her you like her."

I'm not sure what's with this guy right now but he's definitely challenging me.

I decide to talk to her but to not use the line the AMOG had carefully selected for me.

"Wow, it's pretty dead in here tonight."

As soon as I pull back, the AMOG steps in and whispers something to the girl. She then looks at me like "Who is this weirdo?"

I presume he's told her something along of the lines "I think this douche has the hots for you."

To counter this, I try to reduce his social value "Are all your friends this crazy?" but she full on turns my back to her before I can barely finish my sentence. The AMOG turns to me and says "Oh well, hard luck mate. Better luck finding someone else." I admit defeat and retreat to my housemates.

I tried opening another solid 8/10 but was closed out of their circle by a pretty big dude.

Overall, a pretty disappointing night. I had fun with my friends dancing and what-not but I ideally wanted to number close at least one girl. It just seemed like in that night, I couldn't think of anything to say to flirt and show intent without the girls saying "i'm not that easy." I felt my lines were thick; too obvious and whilst it wasn't an issue to meet people, uphold a conversation (as long as they're not attractive, a weakness I admittedly need to work on), it was a major struggle to progress from basic chitter chatter to flirting and showing confidence/intent without the girls doing one of three things: 1. leaving, 2. quickly saying they have a boyfriend, or 3. being offended.

Anyway, what I've said is definitely a huge ball of stuff because my mind isnt as clear as it could be so if anyone's brave enough to have read this, good on you and I'd love to hear what you have to say.

My main questions for readers:

- How do I counter cock-blockers/AMOGs in an effective way? One of the highlights of my night was when I started talking to an AMOG by saying "Bro, do you even lift?" He responded by proudly posing with his guns and resonding "three times a week mate". I guess I just need to find more effective ways of befriending the group before I seek my target and neg her or whatever goes?

- Is it really an effective strategy to open girls on a dancefloor or is it more value to chat to those sitting down or those at the bar?

-Grrrr it is so frustrating when you have a good 3 hours of sarging and not get anywhere. -_-

Last edited by Swordykins; 18-09-2013 at 04:49 AM.
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