I think I put it the wrong way when I said 'get her to hook up with me sober'. Firstly I am definitely in her league physically. I meant more like good ways to initiate, bearing in mind if I get rejected I am living with her.

And by get her to stop hooking up with other people I meant be exclusive with me, she's not cheating we aren't together.

But I do get your point. She's not the most stable person even though when we are just talking and hanging out she does seem like it.
A total disaster is not unlikely. But the opposite of a total disaster is not unlikely either... that's the problem here.

I think I'm going to keep my distance for a while, keep my alpha frame going with her, and rack up a few more notches. She might just fall into my arms, haven't played the jealousy card yet.