Hi guys,
Basically, moved to university about six weeks ago, fucked my flatmate twice in the first two weeks, nearly got friend zoned, learned about PUA and starting doing some basics (DHVing, kino, being less available, negging) and hooked up with her again last week when we were a lot less drunk than the first few times. Besides the hooking up, we have been hanging out so much and have become such good friends that I can't deny any longer she is exactly what I want in an LTR.
However, even though I have not said explicitly that is what I want, she has indicated that she can't be in a relationship right now. We had a text conversation in which she basically said she really doesn't want me to think she is a slut, wishes she didn't have to sleep around to deal with her self esteem problem but if she does she is relieved when it's me she wakes up with, and that I'm the 'lesser evil' but she is still doing it for the wrong reasons. It's not like she is sleeping around that much though, she has only had one other random hookup since we got here and has also had sex with another fuck buddy type guy a few times (But interestingly not for a while now). Keep in mind this is the first term of university!
Thing is, we do not have a just friends type relationship! We have watched porn together, and spend the evenings in my room sometimes watching TV, listening to music, all the while cuddling, playfighting, etc. (I have made sure this doesn't happen too often, can't be that available, plus I always keep the sexual tension going when this does.) Plus we have joked a lot about next time we hook up, and even all joking aside I am pretty confident it will happen in the next few times we get drunk together. Basically everyone else in our flat/block thinks we are getting together, it's that kind of thing.
So has anyone got any ideas how am I meant to get her to start hooking up with me when we are sober, and stop having sex with other people, the only two things stopping what we have now from being a full blown relationship? It's so hard because whatever happens I have to live with her for a year at least! I've got oneitis bad but this time it must mean something, every other time I have got over it as soon as I have got with another girl but that hasn't worked this time... tried twice.