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Originally Posted by nova
I am now at the stage where I am expressing myself honestly more than ever. I used to hold back my thoughts, or say things I thought would impress the girls. I don't do this as much now. I would like to carry along this path of authenticity. There are however, like you say perhaps things that might need to be changed in order for me to progress with all of this. I can only identify these as I go along, and in doing so change what needs changing, as long as it makes total sense to do so.
The problem I have recently identified is I have been chasing girls who keep making excuses and then blaming myself or my tactics for their failure. Perhaps it isn't me or how I have been doing things, but just the way the girl is or her emotions. An example would be a girl who was very interested last week, but is now giving me the cold shoulder. I can't identify what I may have done wrong. Perhaps it is something in her head, or perhaps she is looking for attention. She has become quite rude when I try to converse with her over the past couple of days, giving one word answers.
And the solution? I don't know. But, I now feel I can't be bothered with her any more. I am at the stage where I can't be bothered putting up with a poor standard of behaviour. I have to have standards for what I will accept from girls, and I have to have respect for myself.
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You sound allot like me 12 months ago ( not being condescending and saying ive improved my mental mind set )
I got blown off allot, Girls would be keen one minute and next would give me the cold shoulder
I always tried to figure it out, would mess with my head. Up until the age of 20 I had only experienced 4 sexual experiences.
I dont know you, but from the posts I have read you seem to be a sensitive person who thinks allot ( could be wrong! ) These are great traits to have but until you get that " Aha! " moment you will feel frustrated with getting rejected by girls
Thing is, I get rejected just as much now as I did leading up to my 20's
Difference is it doesnt phase me now, im much more relaxed and collective. As a result I get to meet as many girls as my week can fit in and dont get overly upset when I get rejected, Ignored by txt,fb etc
I dont know what changed in me to make me get to this stage, but I guess every guy must go through it
Last thought bubble, Being Authentic is all well and nice, But Authentic can be bad thing just as much as a good thing, Ive adapted my personality over the years and some things have stuck with me, Through personal experience and social experiments I have " corrected " parts of my personality and my life has improved because of it. Does this mean I have drifted from my Authentic self ? Fuck yes it has,My authentic " self " was an absolute tool!