I use to do this allot... I use to take 10 minutes to think of a reply like a move in chess

I then adopted the " Dont Give a Fuck " philosophy

Just say what you want to say and dont think " could she take this the wrong way" thats her problem if she does

you will quickly find that most girls like the boldness in your txts as long as your not too extreme

also on a side note , dont suddenly go really bold and say outlandish things if you havnt at the start. they will just think your odd that you have randomly changed your txt tone