I think as superstar pointed out, you have to be selective in who you decide to message.
I message girls who I have an interest in, who I would want to spend time with not just physically.
I usually dont go for long essays however if you get along, the message just starts to break off into lots of little topics. I just play it by ear if I'm honest, no hard or fast rules
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