Okay guys, haven't posted here in a while so i will share with you my views on what i feel is vital and simple way to attract women and make them want to talk to you and this thread fits perfectly in this section of the forum.

Most of my success with women was due to when I wasn't focused on getting women but instead just enjoying myself and having a laugh with my mates.

Back in my day when I didn’t know much about “GAME” before it ever became popular, I remember when I use to go out most weekends with my mates to have fun. The less I was focused on attract a girl the easier I found been able to vibe and flirt with them.

The typical guy will say to their friends, “Lads tonight I’m gonna score “, and when they go to the club and they will stand at the bar with there drinks to their chest, look at the girls and stare at the dance floor and hypnotized by it. And that’s almost every guy. The truth is most guys go out to get chicks; girls go out to have fun. Girls will say to there friends, “Tonight girls where gonna dance, we’re gonna party, its gonna be so much fun!

If you just think about it like the law of attraction, like attracts like. Girls energy is, “I’m having fun. A guys energy is “Lets go get the girls, That’s not gonna vibe! Girls are naturally attracted to guys who are having a great time; especially if it’s a rare thing cause all guys go out to get chicks, right?

Like I said most of the successes with women was when I was in top form and was feeling really good about myself, many reasons would be when I was pumping weights at the gym for several months and when I’d dress up to head out I knew I looked great, and because of that I felt great. Girls will notice the subtle things they find attractive.

And it’s not the 20” pythons that look great in my ultra tight t-shirt, no! (awe the good ole days!)It’s because I was feeling very confident (maybe a little bit arrogant) , having a laugh with my friends that got girls attention.

I think its great to have a few openers and routines memorize so your not flying blind but if you would try to think back to a time when you just having fun with your mates and girls were the ones approaching you because you were the party. You found it easy to socialize with girls, you weren’t thinking about how you were going to approach, what opener you were going to say, or how you were going to get her number.

You didn’t care cause your attention was focused in the present moment of having fun with your friends. And when the time came to talk to girls you saw you were able to have fun with her and she didn’t want to leave you.

If guys who go out to meet girls would put the majority of their energy into having a great time, doing whatever they feel like doing, whatever comes to mind, attract women would be so much easier and you game will go through the roof!

Put 80 % of your energy into having a great time, and the other 20% might be approaching cute girl you find attractive. Thing is whenever your in a fun state and could care less about talking to girls or not, makes no difference cause once girls see you having fun they will want to be around you.

For some, attraction begins long before you even approach the girl. When your not focused on getting a girls attention or focusing on what your going to say and instead your just in the bar, with your friends talking about how some funny story about what happened to some guy, whatever. As your laughing and joking about it, girls will instantly notice and you will stand out amongst all the other guys in the bar.

The point I want to make is that the majority of your focus should not be on getting girls, and the catch 22 there is when your not focused on getting girls, or having a great time, girls come to you!

It’s just a natural thing that happens when your having a fun time. Your the fun guy in the bar, when this happens girls are going to love having you around, and you will come across to girls as the fun guy that girls just can’t seem to get enough cause girls feed off fun energy.

By the time this happens, running game on girls feels so natural that every little routine you’ve used in the past, won't even cross your mind, cause your not trying to seek validation from her cause you really don’t give care about getting laid, cause your mind is too much in the moment of having fun and that’s what gets you laid!

Jay