Not sure if this be cool thing worked.

I ended up getting fed up of playing it cool and just addressed the elephant in the room. She stood by what she said when she was drunk. Not going to get with someone who's been with her mate. Despite the knock-back I instantly felt far better and was my charming self again.

Conclusion: Genuine = Non-needy! I find it's usually to do with my ego I feel needy and very un-genuine reasons. Squash the ego, squash the silly mind games (that I'm only playing with myself in all honesty) and squash the neediness!!